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Hey GAG , it’s been a while.

I have re downloaded this app to ask a confrontational topic about whether I should wear shorts in front of my boyfriend’s family. Me and my boyfriend are going back home to visit his parents for their wedding and we will be staying with them, it’s his mom dad and two younger brothers. On a regular basis, I wear gym shorts as a daily wear. I have created outfits and ordered from SHEIN to avoid my daily habits of wearing shorts, but I will wear shorts when I work out for sure. My problem is, when me and my boyfriend go to the gym, his brothers may want to tag along OR i might workout in their garage and use their tread mill. Half my workout consist of me wearing an oversized sweater dress to do cardio and the other half is taking it off and doing weights. Should I do my best to avoid being in gym shorts at all times? If i workout out in their garage I would of course need to come back inside the house and shower. I will be doing my workouts as early as I can. I just don’t know if it’s crossing boundaries or I’m just over thinking it. I’m just doing my best to not make my bfs mom feel some type of way. But I will say, she is young spirited and wears gym shark herself so I just have no idea if would be ok if I did too. And if they’re any girls who would like to give some insight on what they wear around their bfs families would be great thanks all!!

I met my partner on a dating app back in Nov 2023. We dated long distance (7 hours) until I moved closer to his city in March. We lived together from March to June, and he proposed to me in May. We didn't have many issues. I didn't tell my family about him because I'm South Asian and he's Hispanic, so that would've caused issues (forcing me to go back home).

My school dismissed me in May, so my sister came to move me back unannounced. She told my family he had a human trafficking house because it was in a smaller town with 2 dogs and owned 3 guns. She thought he was dangerous because he showed aggressive behavior, like throwing my suitcase across the room when she was grabbing my belongings to go. But, he and I didn't want to leave, we told her that, she didn't listen, he got mad, and threw the suitcase.

My sister begged me to come home since that was her only job, and my mom wasn't doing good. We all left the next day so he could meet my family, which didn't go well because they thought he was only hyperfocused on taking me back to his house rather than respecting their wish to have a family gathering before I moved back in. I decided to stay home because I saw how my mom needed me, which made my partner mad, and he threatened to end the relationship in front of them, making my family more uncomfortable.

My mom was planning the party yesterday but isn't doing it anymore because my sister started crying again about how crazy he and his home are. He doesn't want to do the party; he's telling me to come to him and forget about them since they're only worried about their happiness and not ours.

I truly don't know what to do. I thought my stay at home would've allowed me not to choose between him and my family, and after their party, everyone could move on with life. Now, my mom is figuring out if police can arrest him since she overheard our conversation about me possibly leaving before the party. I don't want to add more stress/problems to our lives. help.