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Ghosting in dating is an unfortunate common issue. Although flaky people have always existed the advent of digital technology has enabled people to indulge in their cowardice/insecurities even more so.

Anyway this started with women ghosting men in romantic scenarios, then more men started ghosting women, then women now ghost their friends and I wonder if guys will start ghosting their buddies more.

I have had it happen once but i know my former buddy was dealing with some very serious marital problems. I guess things got real ugly (he has a kid) and he doesn’t want me to see what he has become. I was friends with him and his wife for a very long time.

But as for guys it still does go against the bro code to do that. But who knows? But there is poll data that women ghost more

https://www.bustle.com/p/women-are-more-likely-to-ghost-someone-theyre-dating-than-men-theres-a-very-good-reason-for-that-8963133

The journalist tries to justify this behavior as women are “raised to please men and do not want to hurt them with confrontation”.

However I completely disagree with that theory. If a women understands men she will know we care about being RESPECT. And ghosting is very insulting. 95%+ she ghosts out of selfish cowardice.

But now more guys are doing this crap. I just hired a web designer for a minor project recently and he had gone MIA on me despite being very dependable on earlier on several projects.

I would like to believe that maybe something came up in his life. But it’s been over two weeks now and I was depending on him. Something tells me he changed his mind about an agreed upon project and decided to bail.

10 years ago this would almost never happen.

I know some of you are going to go off about never using dating apps or trying to find people online period. That’s a separate debate so please don’t bring it up. Not everybody has the time or environment to socialize with singles on a consistent basis.

Anyway I’ve gone real back and forth about ever mentioning sex or even acting flirty with girls I match on dating apps. On one end if she already finds me attractive, is in a good mood and hit her vibe right it can make her more eager to meet up.

However the downside if I just make one wrong comment many women panic and hit the “creep” button. It’s game over and there is little or no room for forgiveness. Often the guy has no idea he’s out. It doesn’t matter if it was an honest mistake or I had no idea she didn’t like a certain comment. Many women just freak.

An even worse scenario is she might just want all virtual sexting and has zero interest in meeting for real. The virtual attention is good enough for her. Most men aren’t satisfied with that. They want to meet someone for real.

Then there is the safe route (and it can be genuine). Just act friendly, funny and don’t mention sex. Many women find this to be non-threatening and are more likely to meet in person.

But a downside with this is she might find me more boring. Some women are deluded/selfish to believe that guys are okay just making “friends” with women on dating apps. Nope. That’s a huge waste of time and effort. That doesn’t mean men are always looking for hook ups. Some of us really want to start a relationship. But there is always at least some romantic interest. Men don’t seek out random women to become “friends” with.

So anyway what’s the best route?