Am I being selfish?

[Anonymous]

So me an my boyfriend got into a fight and were talking it out a few days after. I listened to how my words and actions made him feel and i empathized but when i told him how i felt in thag sutuation he says i'm making it all about me. Was i being selfush when i said no when he wanted to check if i slept with a giy friend that brought me home when he gad to cancel and i was left stranded in the middke of the night. Of course i know the guy likes me but it should be a big deal since nth happened abd i got home safe. then he asked me to sleep with him to 'check' and mske i was serious about the relationship. I am a virgin just putting it out there and i felt totally violated in thst situstion by someone i thought i coild trust snd he's still mad about it. I stayed late at the library after watching a movie with my fruebdsvand he said hevwould come get but told me he couldn't anymore after everyone left i had no other ride home options should i have slept in the library? Seems like i shouud have

[Guy13]

I don’t think you are being selfish, however, It is all in the how you did it element. Are you saying that you two were discussing an issue and that he got upset and accused you of making it all about you. In other words trivializing his view and feelings by being overly sensitive and incessant about subject matter. Only you know that. What I do know is there are seemingly multiple 🚩 🚩🚩 here: —he was with and left you stranded in the City in middle of the night ⁉️
—A guy who has a crush came to your rescue and took you home. If do he brought it in himself. The question about you two sleeping together is legitimate concern of above understanding is accurate.
I know I am rambling but it’s making any sense to you?

[Asker]

He got mad cause it shouldn't be a big deal since i got home and he said i was 'invalidating' his feelings. I am an international student so i know absolutely nothing where what is except for skl and few other places and i was not gonna walk home in the middle of the night. I don't see any problem he was there and he broight me home because my boyfriend got caught up.

[Guy13]

I would not either... he was afraid that his stunts were enough for you to terminate the relationship. What is your country of origination?

[Asker]

Jamaica

[Guy13]

You are more patient than I would be if a Thai girl in Thailand told me that... It seems classless to me?