How do you deal with your partner being selfish in bed?

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

[Anonymous]

Well considering most of my sexual experiences I get off about 1/3 times, I find that most guys are selfish especially when you give them head and they get off, or they get off inside of you etc then they just roll over and sleep, without a care in the world it does get annoying. Majority of time I do get leave they were all new relationships anyhow, I did try asking a guy about doing different stuff and all he shot down every suggestion I made claiming he doesn't like that or it's not for him and most of it was very vanilla

[Cynicaldreamer]

Simple: don't let them. If they don't want to share the pleasure, don't give them any!!!

Sex should be pleasurable for both partners. If your partner is just looking after their needs, I'd address it with them first saying I'm not satisfied... even offer ways you both can have fun in bed!

If they STILL aren't catching the hint after that? Stop giving them sex until they do.

[samismsm]

But talking to each other is more efficient 😉

[crazy8000]

Be straight forward with it instead. speak up otherwise does it turn in to shit. she might not be aware of it or thing's he likes it and then begin to think he is punishing her for something else. that will create a total fucked up relationship dynamic that isn't healthy and you are the fault because you didn't communicate.

Personal would I give you a warning when weaponizing sex. if you come with shitty attitude I will end it right on the spot and will be cristal clear why. nothing you will come with will work in that scenario only gonna throw it back in a confronting way and then shut the whole argument down.

[opnbuk59]

Selfish in bed that could mean a whole lot of things, like not letting you in it, keeping all the covers not having sex putting Ice pack on your side of bed snoring passing gas tickling you as you try to sleep taking constantly as you try to sleep leaving lights on watching TV loudly talking loud on phone, selfish how?

[E-Warren-lover]

I dated a girl like this. She was smoking hot perfect 10 but it was a struggle to bed her as she just lay there and expected me to do all the work.
I've been with lesbians and an a-sexual that were much much better.

[Apple1996]

I would just fight fire with fire and be selfish right back to show them how they are acting 🔥🔥

[bella4eva]

If I'm being totally honest, this actually suits me since I'm on the asexual spectrum, but I make up 1% of the population, so I guess I'm really not normal 😅

[Katebfun]

Talk about what your needs are physically and if they don't meet those needs and it continues to be an issue leave.

[AlongCameCindy]

Tell them to sort themselves out and pleasure me too, selfishness is a major turn off, it actually puts me off wanting to have sex with them at all, i find it so hard to get off anyway, last thing i need is them only caring about their own needs.

[arabgoddess]

You become withdrawn from them and turned off.. There goes the sex!

[Duckysback]

By finding a new partner, or just leaving them behind and taking care of my own needs for a while.

[openrelationship]

1. Talk with partner
2. Be dominant on bed with your partner and make sure that he/she gives you what you need
3. Try to explore more in your sex life. Maybe that can take out the selfishness.

[COMMODOREII]

Im not sure. I don't think I've ever had that problem.

[WhiteShoulder]

For some people being selfish turns them on

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

That mindset is frightening. Quite similar to the one sexual abusers have.

[WhiteShoulder]

Exactly!!!

Find someone else. Not even kidding.

[Bongem]

Lay on her, she gets the hint, smiles and makes some room for me.

[devilman666]

Try to talk to them, if that doesn't work, break up and find someone else.

[pleasestopthis]

You talk about what's bothering you, if the person isn't willing to compromise then we stop being intimate and then just break up.

[Pallavi37]

I make sure he doesn't cum soon. And I use toys in between

[Anonymous]

Distance myself for awhile. Or tell them and give pointers and ask them for theirs.

[SarahsSummer]

Talk to them and expect change or leave.

[Anonymous]

Depends how she’s being selfish. If she’s hogging the covers, she’s sleeping on the couch.

[NumberOneStunna]

That just means they’re cheating and you should move on!

[8michael2]

This is a easy one. Just choose to be with another partner. Who has time to deal with that?

[msss98]

Talk to them

[Laozi]

By not giving them what they want.

[LuWe22]

Communication. I discuss it with my partner.

[simplelikeme]

With all that... I would say bye.

[lightbulb27]

need more details.

[reptocarl]

I get a new partner

[Anonymous]

I haven't had to.

[Anonymous]

Find a new partner

[theAMAZINGthumbs]

Communication.

[jimmy2]

In what way