How do you deal with your partner being selfish in bed?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Well considering most of my sexual experiences I get off about 1/3 times, I find that most guys are selfish especially when you give them head and they get off, or they get off inside of you etc then they just roll over and sleep, without a care in the world it does get annoying. Majority of time I do get leave they were all new relationships anyhow, I did try asking a guy about doing different stuff and all he shot down every suggestion I made claiming he doesn't like that or it's not for him and most of it was very vanilla

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Simple: don't let them. If they don't want to share the pleasure, don't give them any!!!

Sex should be pleasurable for both partners. If your partner is just looking after their needs, I'd address it with them first saying I'm not satisfied... even offer ways you both can have fun in bed!

If they STILL aren't catching the hint after that? Stop giving them sex until they do.

opnbuk59 · Accepted Answer

Selfish in bed that could mean a whole lot of things, like not letting you in it, keeping all the covers not having sex putting Ice pack on your side of bed snoring passing gas tickling you as you try to sleep taking constantly as you try to sleep leaving lights on watching TV loudly talking loud on phone, selfish how?

E-Warren-lover · Accepted Answer

I dated a girl like this. She was smoking hot perfect 10 but it was a struggle to bed her as she just lay there and expected me to do all the work.
I've been with lesbians and an a-sexual that were much much better.

Apple1996 · Answer

I would just fight fire with fire and be selfish right back to show them how they are acting 🔥🔥

bella4eva · Answer

If I'm being totally honest, this actually suits me since I'm on the asexual spectrum, but I make up 1% of the population, so I guess I'm really not normal 😅

Katebfun · Answer

Talk about what your needs are physically and if they don't meet those needs and it continues to be an issue leave.

AlongCameCindy · Answer

Tell them to sort themselves out and pleasure me too, selfishness is a major turn off, it actually puts me off wanting to have sex with them at all, i find it so hard to get off anyway, last thing i need is them only caring about their own needs.

arabgoddess · Answer

You become withdrawn from them and turned off.. There goes the sex!

Duckysback · Answer

By finding a new partner, or just leaving them behind and taking care of my own needs for a while.

openrelationship · Answer

1. Talk with partner 2. Be dominant on bed with your partner and make sure that he/she gives you what you need 3. Try to explore more in your sex life. Maybe that can take out the selfishness.

COMMODOREII · Answer

Im not sure. I don't think I've ever had that problem.

WhiteShoulder · Answer

For some people being selfish turns them on

Bongem · Answer

Lay on her, she gets the hint, smiles and makes some room for me.

devilman666 · Answer

Try to talk to them, if that doesn't work, break up and find someone else.

pleasestopthis · Answer

You talk about what's bothering you, if the person isn't willing to compromise then we stop being intimate and then just break up.

Pallavi37 · Answer

I make sure he doesn't cum soon. And I use toys in between

Anonymous · Answer

Distance myself for awhile. Or tell them and give pointers and ask them for theirs.

SarahsSummer · Answer

Talk to them and expect change or leave.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends how she’s being selfish. If she’s hogging the covers, she’s sleeping on the couch.

NumberOneStunna · Answer

That just means they’re cheating and you should move on!

8michael2 · Answer

This is a easy one. Just choose to be with another partner. Who has time to deal with that?

msss98 · Answer

Talk to them

Laozi · Answer

By not giving them what they want.

LuWe22 · Answer

Communication. I discuss it with my partner.

simplelikeme · Answer

With all that... I would say bye.

lightbulb27 · Answer

need more details.

reptocarl · Answer

I get a new partner

Anonymous · Answer

I haven't had to.

Anonymous · Answer

Find a new partner

theAMAZINGthumbs · Answer

Communication.

jimmy2 · Answer

In what way

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