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The story is quite big but I'll try my best to sum it up in just a few lines. Hope you guys can understand.
So there's this woman (let's name her Lilly) who is actually my next door neighbor. She's actually 7 years older than me, lol and she also got a brother who's the same age as me. So talking about Lilly. She's a beautiful woman with a killer smile and a fantastic personality. But like everyone else, she also got her own demons and fair share of past traumas. Even though she struggles with anxiety, adhd and other issues, she's the most resilient and determined woman I've ever seen. A true fighter! She's ambitious, driven and passionate about her work and... Yea... I could actually go on and on but... let's just get to the story.
So around this time last year, we started talking through insta. I mean... I always saw as a sister only tbh. So whenever I'd find some funny reels, I'd send it to her along with my own sister who is actually 10 years older than and also a really good friend of Lilly. Time passed by... sending reels and good night messages kinda became a tradition between us. We bonded really quickly and like she'd say... We vibed! I told myself that I think I got a best friend with whom I can share anything. And she also shared some of her biggest secrets with me too. I was slowly falling for her without even realizing that myself cos in my head I've always limited our relationship to just "friends". Long story short, we both fell in love with each other. We did go through an on and off phase in between cos we didn't want anyone to know about us especially our family members cos we come from different religious and cultural backgrounds plus, the age gap. I know it's 21st century and we should have an open mind and all but we r just afraid of losing our loved ones. So we mutually decided to end it cos it was hurting both of us and now after she's gone, there's not a single day I don't miss her and cry. And it's slowly killing me from inside. I can't...

I’m going to try and convey this in an unbiased manner.

A relative has turned down countless job opportunities and says he’s going to be a currency trader or something like that online but he’s always just earned a meagre income from doing this letter writing work online. I had a job lined up for him with a company down the road which was his dream career but he turned it down and I didn’t push the issue any further but I found it strange - why turn down a job you’d like to do for no good reason?

He refuses to apply for social security payments and when I ask him to contribute around the house he refuses. He washes his own dishes but refuses to wash other people’s dishes even though other household members often wash his

He refuses to even get an iPhone and pay for Uber eats things for himself. He also constantly complains about every little thing and at any chance he gets he talks fondly of high school. He refuses to seek support for his anxiety and instead tells me about his problems even though I don’t want to hear it. If I say please don’t tell me your problems - he becomes argumentative and says “well I don’t wanna hear yours!” And starts swearing

he's had multiple opportunities to seek support and do things like the job I mentioned before but he turns them down. He spends most of the time in his bedroom. When he uses the shower he spends a long time like 20 mins in there with the door locked

sometimes I wake up early and I cough a little and I hear him sighing and complaining about me coughing under his breath

he is extremely religious and if I say something which he thinks is critiquing the religion he starts shouting at me and tells me to not blaspheme his LORD and things like this but he can belittle my political beliefs as much as he likes and I say nothing

Is he selfish and is what he is doing to me bad? Thanks