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Unable to plan supprises because of anxiety?

Me and my partner have been together for coming up to 3 years. We spent the whole of lockdown together and moved in to our own place a few months after restrictions were lifted. Since everything has gone back to normal (or at least what normal seems to be now) she's suddenly gotten very anxious about different things, but they seem to come and go. At the start of the year we went to a gig (about 2,000 people were there) and she seemed to really enjoy it and a few weeks later 2 bands that we both really like announced a tour and I was able to get 2 tickets, same venue so you'd imagine the same amount of people. Now she doesn't want to go because she doesn't want to be around that many people, which is fair, so I've been able to sell the tickets. No harm. I'd also around the same time gotten us tickets to see a musical that I knew she really wanted to see, but the same issue with too many people and again I was able sell the tickets. Now she's moaning that I never surprise her with anything and don't do spontaneous things. My issue is that I struggle to do things from March until August because I play a semi pro sport and that takes up most of my Sundays, but I always try to do something at least once a month on a Saturday as a surprise for her, but the last 6 we've had to cancel for one reason or another. I'm a bit stuck because when I plan something it has to be cancelled, but then I'm moaned at for not planning things. Any advice on what to do?

Unable to plan supprises because of anxiety?
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