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If you're single and the *only* partners you could possibly ever get, would be abusive, disrespectful, unfaithful, or otherwise not treat you with proper respect, and you refuse to be with someone like that and are sad to be alone because of that, would that still be considered being picky/entitled?

As in, you could be with someone and have a relationship with them, but these people would only ever be mean to you, disrespectful, polyamorous (cheating), expect you to pay them money constantly in order for them to stay with you, would not consider you a good partner, etc. They'd be using/exploiting you, but at least you'd still be with someone.

If someone chooses not to be with someone like that, are they considered picky/entitled? Or is that fair? (This applies to both genders in such a situation, but likely applies more so to men, for obvious reasons.)

I'm asking this in full good faith. I do know know what you'd call this.

I ruined a good opportunity several years ago with a woman who could of been my wife. I didn’t cheat but I didn’t appreciate and reciprocate the love/respect she gave me. It was a complicated situation but I failed to communicate effectively. I owned up to being in the wrong when she broke up with me.

But it’s almost been 10 years now and I have had other gfs and flings. Nothing has come close to what I once had with this woman. No one understood me like she did.

However I’ve seen plenty of other shitty women I’ve past known manage to successfully get married and have kids. Who knows if their husbands are their dream men but something must of worked for them to settle down. But it doesn’t seem like men get as many second chances as women do when we screw up a good opportunity.

It was the only time in my entire life I made a mistake like that. She actually did something to deeply hurt me after ever split. That’s a whole another story but bad karma does exist I already got it back seven fold and got it back hard.

But why I do feel like I have had bad lingering karma ever since? Or is it that men in general have fewer options?

Asked this woman out at my gym, she said no because she has a boyfriend. We stayed gym buddies since.

Then all of a sudden a couple months later she said she was breaking up with her boyfriend and wanted to take me up on my offer. After the breakup up though things took a turn. She admitted she has interest in me, likes me, but needs time. Since then things have been hit or miss. She doesn’t really text or respond (I barely text her now), no social media interactions on my stuff but does on other people’s.

Yet when I see her in person (usually at her work, she works at that gym) she’s happy to see me, could talk to me all day and does text fit a bit after I leave but then goes silent again. She says she’s getting me a Christmas present and wants to exchange on Christmas Eve after work.

I get she probably needs time, her ex cheated on her and from what I can tell was manipulative (she hasn’t really opened up about it to me). But I guess by mind is split. Part of me is saying her actions speak louder than words (not communicating, she does say she’s horrible at texting). The other part says she just broke up with her ex and is probably trying to work through that and keep me and the situation separate.

What are your opinions?