I am a very private person. Like all women, I dream of the perfect romeo and juliet type love. And i had it at age 15. I met a boy who truly loved me, bought me roses everyday and was willing to wait on me. ( yes, I was a virgin). At the same time a girl introduced herself as his friend. She told me she was dating his best friend and hangs out with his clique. I did not know it at the time and recently found out that she was the ride to my house when he delivered the flowers to me. When she came to me she told me that all my boyfriend does is talk about me.. how much he loves me and how pretty I am. He and I went our separate ways as I decided to go off to college. ...20 year later he has 2 kids with her and was with her for the past 18 years. He told me that he thought I was never coming back so he moved on as he should. He told me she BEGGED him for children and they are no longer together. He said she cheated on him the whole time and started a new relationship with the new man in her life. Him and I are back together and I am dealing with the challenges of dating a man with children and they come with a baby mother. Its really hard at times and my boyfriend wants to please everyone. I found out that throughout the years she would often compare herself to me, and she makes it clear that he "put her first" because of the children. She is very unhappy in her new relationship, and although their kids ADORE ME, I am not happy with the fact that I have to deal with her and her demands, her husband is jealous of the fact that she still has feelings for her kids father. So, it seems she created a situation where NO ONE IS HAPPY. Her kids often tell me they wish their parents get back together and I empathize with them. Still I am disqusted with her sneakiness and her eargerness to seemingly 1 up me. Do you think its right that I let her know I do not like her best friend hopping, sneaky, slutty ways? She always has something to say now for 20+ years and i'm tired of it.
Should I be nice to his baby mama?
