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28F, just leaning towards bad luck. I’m very introverted & not the friendliest but I don’t think I’m intimidating. I’m told I’m cute/attractive, it’s not like I’m a runway model yet guys just never approach me. I’m told guys look at me but they never do anything about it & I’m too shy. I know there’s nothing wrong with me, most women seem to get guys so easily. That’s why I’ve been on and off the apps since I was maybe 18, getting matches has never been a prob. Convo always fades, ghosting, lack of interest (goes both ways) & some guys who are crazy. I’ve tried a lot of them, usually I stick with Hinge. It’s always a pattern of the guys I want who don’t want me back & the ones that want me I don’t like back. For maybe the past year I’ve become less and less interested, I reply to matches/msgs every couple of days? Even when I was more engaged it still led to the same pattern of no success. A few people have said maybe I’m asexual (haven’t had sex or masturbated in years), assume I’m gay or I’m unsure of what I want. Maybe they’re all wrong & simply I haven’t found the right person? I dated someone for a few months back when I was 23 & after dealing with someone I felt like I settled for, I decided I’d rather be alone vs be with someone I am not crazy for. I’m kind of at the point where I’m apathetic & I just feel too old to be bothered.

As a foreigner observing what I see in America from the large numbers of divorced female neighbours where I live it seems to be the case. As a Catholic naturally I don't believe in divorce but still in the majority of cases that I've seen the husband was an average enough fellow working to provide for his wife and kids when his wife decided she wasn't happy & blamed him for it.

Well apparently more women than men in America own their homes, there is a reason for this. When I look at the divorced wives in my neighbourhood financially they are doing quite well, even the ones who don't work with alimony payments, child support and divorce settlements. The only thing I would say about them is that even though most of them instigated the divorces usually for fickle reasons it's seems they are no happier in fact I would say they are miserable and also their kids suffer. And when their ex husbands find love again they get bitter about it. The men they date tend to treat them very badly using them for sex, money and a rent free place to stay. Now I try not to judge these divorced women but having spoken to them on occasion it quickly becomes apparent in most cases that they divorced their exs for no reason.