So this came before I was in the picture. My man tells me that his baby mother conceived in November and I came into the picture in December. He didn’t know she was pregnant which I find irresponsible as is. The baby mother told him that she missed her period and didn’t want to have sex when in reality she lied about being on her period. I believe she lied about that to have another kid with him. Now he is almost positive he has another kid on the way, and is already upset about not being able to see the daughter of his he has now due to being away for work. I just wonder how he’s gonna handle this because he says he won’t have as much emotion over this pregnancy because his bm turned up unexpectedly pregnant and two she said she felt trapped by having another with him. On top of this… she decided to have the baby anyways and wasn’t telling him about the pregnancy and she’s due next month. So I just wonder how he’s gonna feel when he sees another kid of his growing up because now he will have two. I told him to drive trucks locally which is his job but he decided he wanted to drive over the country for two years to make more money. Obviously when I heard this news when he asked me would I be with him if he had two kids I immediately said no and of course he got defensive. Turns out he has another one on the way. His baby mother isn’t the best at coparenting either. How I feel about this is that i was disappointed that I feel like I’m in the middle of this but I love him and willing to support him and his kids just wish he wasn’t messing with his bm not too long before he met me.
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This man has also done a lot for me much more than any man has and we talk about our future a lot and have made plenty plans for the future for the both of us.
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This feels like you’re a rebound choice. He’s got small children and another on the way, they aren’t done yet. You’ve been in the picture less than a year, I’m not sure how you could feel anything other than used in a few months time.
I felt like I wanted to leave because he has another one on the way because I know what comes with being with someone who has kids previously but I was mature about it and said I will make it work because he has done a lot for me and is a great father to his kids
It’s unfortunate when women get so enamored by decent treatment that they stay in situations like this. He isn’t the only good man out there, surely there’s one available with less baggage, even if it’s older children who aren’t small. This man has a baby on the way, that means he was deal with his BM way too recent, and will probably go back once the new baby is born. Especially if he is very attached to his kids. You have only been dealing with him for 6 months, that is nothing on the history that they have, and I’m sorry but “planning” without solid actions to back it up are just words.
Well I do understand what your saying. I thought that also but he doesn’t respect or want to be around her anymore and have made it clear to me she means nothing to him besides the fact that she birthed his kids. It’s unfortunate he dealt with her recently and I have to watch her have another one of his kids and I he has apologized about bringing me into this several times. Clearly I was a rebound or something to help him get over not being with his kid everyday.. him and her were broken up way before he got her pregnant again
I just wanted everything to be fine between us but it makes it worse she’s having a kid next month and isn’t good with coparenting and he’s upset almost once every week about his kid I can only imagine how he will feel when the next one is born
I can only speak from experience, and trust me, a man can swear up and down that he loathes his BM, yet have hooked up with her less that a year ago. In my case I’d see this man literally slander this woman on Facebook for everyone to see, swear he was done, he was great to me, of course I believed it. It was very naive, but I wasn’t going to be done until I was ready. Same goes for you.
Trust me I love him but won’t completely believe that he didn’t have feelings for his bm then. I get how it goes. You have a kid with someone you was with previously you got feelings for them. I will keep everything in mind and know what I’m getting myself into. If I ever see anything fishy I would be okay with leaving for my own sake.
Praying for you and sending you positivity. I truly hope you find your way out of that situation. Strengthen your relationship with god if it isn’t firm already and have confidence in his plan for your life. Let him guide you to where you need to be. 🍀
Thank you💗 I really appreciate it I am focusing on strengthening and building my relationship with GOD
Glad to hear that, if I didn’t do the same I would’ve never left. 3 years I was deep in love, it is hard to go when you haven’t experienced better, you won’t think there’s better. But there is. Wishing you luck🩵
I'm not sure this is such a great idea tbh
I said the same thing but he has a good child and I get along with her very well
But baby mamas can be a problem
Ditch him.
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