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Hi Ladies!

Ok, so true story, a good guy friend of mine once sat at our favorite bar and "outlined" all my attributes for me in a way that was just matter-of-fact, like a lawyer making a case for his client. In closing, he said, "... I've known all this since the first time I saw you. You just light up the room as soon as you walk into it, without doing anything at all. Any guy who can't see and feel that is nuts." He held up his Macallan and toasted me, which made me laugh and nudge him. It was very sweet and meant to get me out of the funk of the nasty things people were saying about me being a divorcee, etc.

Today's the anniv of his passing (RIP 2020, COVID), so he's on my mind. I didn't reject his incredible compliment, but I didn't really accept them and let them sink in till this month. Since this heart to heart five years ago I've had lots of compliments about different things and I always automatically deflect them as something kind the other person is saying. I don't take it to heart. Sometimes if a person goes on and on about something I did I'll blush, quietly thank the person and outline THEIR qualities, indicating that if I'm good at something it's because I have the benefit of working with THEM (which I also truly believe... no one really stands alone 100%). This morning I receive a compliment and I let it sink in a little... to my heart... and it was a great feeling. I think my friend sent this person my way with a kind word because I was feeling glum and remembering all our chats before he passed on...

Anyway, I got to thinking... how many of us don't know how to accept a compliment?

Take a moment to think about the nicest thing anyone's ever said to you. How did you respond? Did you ACCEPT the compliment or DEFLECT it?

A different topic made me think about this. Personally I like it, I used to think it wasn’t appropriate in every situation, but now I think it is fine, even w his hand on my waist or hip or thigh area for support, if it’s a good relationship and you aren’t doing other stuff that is inappropriate (groping). I will sit on his lap occasionally at family events or in public and I am not self conscious about it. In fact there are times I do it just so I don’t have to sit on something cold or rough like a low brick wall, he can do that and then I sit on his knee. When it is more of an affectionate situation like at home (I sit on his lap every night at home), I like him to rock me a little, he also sometimes bounces me a little but I prefer being rocked, either way not big motions kind of mild. One important thing nobody talks about is, not feeling like you will fall off, so mild movements, and his arms supporting you are things to consider. Do you like being bounced or rocked? Guys how do you feel about girls sitting on you?

i always make sure he has snacks, and love watching him grow out of his clothes, he's not the kind of guy that works out, and I've definitely helped him put on on about 30 lbs in the past couple years. he used to be so skinny and he's so nice and chubby now.:)

You take “initiative” in wanting to meet up apparently and then want to move off the app, what happened to guys asking for the girl’s number or social media?