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So my roommate’s bf’s best friend is super attractive and checks off a lot of my boxes personality & life desires wise. I very much want to pursue something with him, but I’m super nervous since I’m in my mid/late 20s & have only ever had 1 boyfriend (who I dated off & on for a few months at a time for a few years, v toxic), he’s 1.5 years younger than me & has only ever had 1 girlfriend (only dated her for a couple months), & we’re also in a friend group together. I have more hookup experience than him, but I don’t really have a lot of dating experience, especially not healthy dating experience. The few times I have dated in the past, I’ve been told that I’m too clingy or move too fast to be serious bc I’m very touchy when I like someone. My love language is physical touch & sex is how I express a lot of affection, & sex early on doesn’t mean I’m not trying to be serious, it means I’m interested in you. If I can’t express myself in that way, then we’re not compatible.

He invited me over to his place the other night to watch some tv, & I went over & we drank some wine. I was holding his hand, put my head on his shoulder, cuddled up next to him, etc. I was expecting him to make the next move if he was interested in doing so. I’m very nervous about making all the physical moves bc I’ve been told in the past that I’m too cuddly & too physical. Well, he has even less experience than me & I don’t think he really knows how or when to move it to the next level. Long story short, I ended up leaving the other night without so much as a kiss from him, despite me being very cuddly. He seemed receptive to me touching him and when I even asked if I was doing too much he told me no, he just didn’t make a move to move things forward.

Is he uninterested & just wanting the attention? Or does it seem like he’s nervous too?

Question:

When females ask for [“reciprocation”] from males, are they really asking for a “female-minded, lover?” 🤖 👧

^^(meaning they want a direct copy of themselves when it comes to loving, or something like a mirror, and that would make things unfair). 🪞

In reality, Males do not ask that females reciprocate their affections, by working hard for them or say, lifting them into the house when they have a stubbed/ broken toe/ ankle.

Is it true, women are right to want love, but they go too far expecting men to love, as they do? And if not, they would say “the men didn’t love them?”

• Maybe the real things in question here, is that men and women have [physical and EXPRESSIVE limits.] 🤲💪

• Maybe men cannot fully express their love for a woman, or maybe not express it to the same extent the women would for their men? 💅

Just as women cannot fully and physically tend to their men as men can tend to their women.💪

-Maybe that’s the point?

But there would be (the few) some men and women, who would abuse these realities and take certain males/females for granted:

• I. e. a male in a relationship who didn’t really love her, possibly pushing her in front of him as a robber robbed the store, 🥷 and

• a female who said how much she loved him (maybe even sang him to sleep), 🗣 but did the same for other men she was seeing.

This type of male and female would use their [strength and expression] to take advantage of their lover in the relationship. Instead of using it properly because they never truly loved that person in the relationship, to begin with. 🤷‍♀️

-Does this train of logic seem reasonable along with the top 🔝 question that is in bold font?

Is it just “one of those things” you know, when you’re in a relationship with the love of your life? 👀👐

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