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Question: When females ask for [“reciprocation”] from males, are they really asking for a “female-minded, lover?” 🤖 👧  ^^(meaning they want a direct copy of themselves when it comes to loving, or something like a mirror, and that would make things unfair). 🪞  In reality, Males do not ask that females  reciprocate  their affections, by working hard for them or say, lifting them into the house when they have a stubbed/ broken toe/ ankle. Is it true, women are right to want love, but they go too far expecting men to love, as they do? And if not, they would say “the men didn’t love them?” • Maybe the real things in question here, is that men and women have [physical and EXPRESSIVE limits.] 🤲💪 • Maybe men cannot fully express their love for a woman, or maybe not express it to the same extent the women would for their men? 💅 Just as women cannot fully and physically tend to their men as men can tend to their women.💪 -Maybe that’s the point?  But there would be (the few) some men and women, who would  abuse  these realities and take certain males/females for granted: I. e. a male in a relationship who didn’t really love her, possibly pushing her in front of him as a robber robbed the store, 🥷 and a female who said how much she loved him (maybe even sang him to sleep), 🗣 but did the same for other men she was seeing. This type of male and female would use their [strength and expression] to take advantage of their lover in the relationship. Instead of  using it properly   because they never truly loved that person in the relationship, to begin with. 🤷‍♀️ -Does this train of logic seem reasonable along with the top 🔝 question that is in bold font? Is it just “one of those things” you know, when you’re in a relationship with the love of your life? 👀👐 (All images sourced from Google)

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

Hmm I don't know. But to point out the abuse of reality part. I was extremely hurt when i gave this one dude a scenario after like a year or so into the relationship of, if we had a kid and they were about to die but needed a transplant and we were both a match, but it would cause us to die, who do you think should give up their organ. This mf said without hesitation “you should. Because i’m more independent and could be a better provider to the kid.” I was in pure shock that he said that. #1 He was no more independent then i was at the time. I was fresh out of school and had quit a job that was mentally toxic to me but was struggling to be qualified for another due to lack of experience. He on the other hand had just been let go from 3+ jobs in the same year. Yet he’s more financially stable? When i finally got my next job 6 months later, I had saved 75% of every check and was already saving 5 figures worth. He on the other hand had 3 figures saved if even that because he kept spending his savings on cruises and game consoles. He considered me less independent because i was having to help family financially (but i still had it to give). He didn't have anything to give his family not himself but I’m less financially stable? Gosh I wish i wouldve broken up with him as soon as he gave that answer. Anyways as for singing guys to sleep, I used to do that. But it was guys that i loved. So while his scenario showed that he didn't love me, and wasn't willing to die for our kid (i would’ve been happy to sacrifice myself for my kid but i’d hate to leave my kid behind), my scenario of singing those i loved to sleep was definitely a signature of love

caring__1 · Accepted Answer

Reciprocation is about clearly responding to what a partner does and being an active equal participant in the relationship. Never expect someone to read your mind and assume what you mean. There is no such thing as complete equality, but it is important for both to put forth an equally significant effort in creating and maintaining the relationship... determined by what you discover your partner values, not assuming what you value is what your partner values. Unfortunately, most people enter relationships with a sense of entitlement of what they deserve to receive, yet the healthiest, most meaningful and enjoyable relationships are ones where both partners focus more on what they bring to the relationship than what they receive. In reality, the more we give, the more we receive; the more we take, the quicker the well runs dry.

It's not about expecting reciprocation, as that turns it into an obligation... and we tend to resist obligations. It's about choosing a partner who values reciprocation as much as you do. People are as unlikely to change their primary essence for you as you are to change your primary essence for them. It feels good when our efforts are acknowledged, and we see how they trigger similar effort in our partner. We want to believe we have value in the relationship, and this is where we belong. We get this reassurance when our partner shows as much consideration for us as we show for our partner. Quality reciprocation is based on balance, not obligation.

loveslongnails · Accepted Answer

Ok, guys and girls, tell me what you think:

The most contradictory message that women send is this:

Part A) " I want a man who is strong mentally, emotionally, physically, who will accept me yet push me to be more at the same time, in a loving way. But as strong as I want him to be, I want him to be able to

Part B) "open up and let me in, and most of all, express his love for me and only me and be fully devoted to us".

So he accomplishes Part A, and she asks for Part B. THEN, if and when he manages to DO Part B because he actually does love her, too many women say:

" I didn't know he was so weak and needy".

Raise your hands guys if this has happened to you, and girls, if you've done it.

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