Search Results: how do i stop thinking about him

Alright. I was not going to ask about this bc I really do not think there was any bad intention, on the other hand it’s bothering me so here I go.

I regularly have physical therapy for chronic dizziness. Therapists change every few months. This last one I clicked with immediately. He gives me exercises and answers questions. There is no physical contact.

After my sessions ended, seeing as we get on pretty well & with him being new in the area I invited him out platonically— just me showing him around.

I made it clear I am not interested in dating. He said he travels so he’s not about dating atm, we understand each other. No problems.

Fourth time we met up mind you this was over three months period of time- we weren’t meeting up constantly. It was very late we were listening to street music playing their last song, he moves in (slowly enough for me to stop him - I give him props for that) I stopped him. I asked him ‘you said you wanted to be friends. We both agreed?’ He said he did. He does. He was just feeling very friendly. 👀 👀

I knew he was joking so I laughed but then my mind went back to the issue which was:

1. I do not want to get involved.

2 I thought he didn’t want to get involved.

3 he basically lied to me.

And here’s the thing. He answered me honestly but I now doubt I can trust him.

he said he kind of assumed I was just saying I didn’t want more than friends bc everyone says that (((do they?)) and we get on well so he thought he’d just wait and see.

it doesn’t bother me he turned out to be a bit interested or that he tried to kiss me or even him lying bc he didn’t have an obligation to tell he if he was interested in anything - as long as he accepted I wasn’t.

It is the fact he assumed I was lying and I’m quite tired of people thinking I am playing a game when I’m direct. Even nice people.

He didn’t trust me & I don't know if I can trust him. BUT he did come clean. He could have played it off as a misunderstanding.

What would you do?

I met a really nice guy on the train coming back from the Edinburgh fringe on Wednesday , we talked for the whole hour and made each other giggle the whole way, we had so much in common i swear he was my twin. When it came to his stop i literally had to get him to go and when he walked past i felt him staring. Even at the door i felt he didn't want to get off. he's not my usual type with a beard but then maybe im becoming more fluent as i get older. We didn't swap any name or social s but we know where we both live and he said what his job is etc i said when he got off he could find me online if he tried hard enough, I've tried to find him but its proving difficult. Can't seem to stop thinking about him its crazy

Does anything bad ever happen to bad people? Like rapist? Who regularly do whatever they want with whomever and no-one ever says anything, these people cross every possible boundaries and still nothing ever happens to them they stay the same miserable animals and do it over and over again until they can take advantage as much as they can until there is nothing left of that person?

i just can't stop thinking of how to get revenge or make them feel just as bad and miserable

and then again i also have to choose to live at peace and be forgiving