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Tips on restarting an old relationship?


Hello everyone,

I am 28, and single for a little bit after a year ish long relationship. It ended on okay terms. It just seemed neither of us were too crazy about each other

Well, I'm back in contact with an ex I've been in on and off contact with from 3 years ago. And to me, he's the one. The one I've never stopped thinking about. And our relationship didn't end badly. We just weren't in the place to make it work.

But a little while ago this man reached out saying he had been thinking of me, missed me, wanted to take me out and do better. And it was gut wrenching because i wasn't single at the time. But I told him he needed to not contact me because I was in a relationship. And I didn't hear from him after that.
Fast forward to a couple weeks ago, I reach out to him. I ask how he's doing and if he would like to grab lunch and catch up.
He says yes and asks if I am single/and confirms he is. We had lunch 2 days ago. And it was wonderful. We talked for a few hours and had a really long hug before we split ways for the day.

It's been a complicated situation for us over the years, but never mean, nor disrespecting each other if we were seeing other people.

But after his message from before I cut contact, I feel like he may want to try this again.

Our lunch was just casual. But our chemistry was still VERY palpible and there. We also just have so much history. And I'd dearly love for this to happen. I genuinely love this man and to me, he has been the one since we met. And I am 100% certain my feelings are returned. I'm just not sure how to move it forward as I feel like we are both hesitant. And I feel like since I rejected him last, it's on me to initiate.

Advice on how to do that? I don't want to rush into it, but I also want to make it clear I am interested in him.

And our contact since lunch was been me saying "it was very very good to see you". And him saying "likewise :)"

So off to a good start I think?

Tips on restarting an old relationship?
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