Is it wrong to flirt with my doctor or subtly ask him out, if I plan to end the patient-doctor relationship?

[Anonymous]

Hi, this is quite embarassing to ask, but I am a 28-years old woman and I feel sexually attracted to my doctor, who is quite older than me. I first felt sexually attracted quite some time ago, but then I didn't see him for a long time, so I stopped thinking about it. But then more recently, some months ago, I went there to talk about my mental health, and he asked me some personal questions regarding a previous relationship that I had, questions that maybe weren't really necessary and that gave me the feeling that he might be attracted to me, but it is just a feeling. I realise that some of the questions he asked me might have been inappropriate or close to it, but in these days I keep thinking about it and having fantasies. I thought about changing doctor in any case, because this feeling makes me feel a bit uncomfortable when I have to go there. My question is: would it be wrong to subtly ask him out, considering that we are both grown-up adults, if then I would change doctor (so the doctor-patient relationship would end)?

[Anonymous]

So, it would be wrong for your Doctor to ask you out, but as a patient you can perfectly well enquire if he's single. That's always the start point. If he says he is single (e. g. unattached) then after an appointment there is no shame is saying "I'd love to get to know you better over some drinks if you would care to join me sometime?". Not a problem at all. Indeed its doing the guy a favour if he does like you and is your doctor because in that way its you who's opted in (which is avoids him being unprofessional and asking you).

Make sure you get to know him better outside of both your office hours, make it somewhere safe /public and your right, maybe change your doctor to a woman after to avoid awkwardness if you couple up (though maybe if you couple up you have a doctor in your life hehe).

Good luck.

[Enes38]

I think you should have a good relationship with your doctor so that it doesn't stay in you.

[Anonymous]

Professional relationships should stay like that.

[Serkee]

She said she plans to end the professional relationship. I don't see the issue.

[In_Trance]

Yes it's wrong

[Anonymous]

Don’t do it