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So guy met at a friend's party starting to date - just coffee so far - has said twice randomly he isn't the sort to cheat in a relationship. Now this is entirely unprovoked, we weren't talking anything remotely along the lines of cheating or even sexual and yet he spouts this off. To me it's a major red flag because why say this unless he's done it before or been accused of it

I 23F have been with 32M since November 2022. His last relationship was with someone one year older than me which should have been first my red flag.

I have introduced boyfriend to a handful of friends. He becomes so drunk and high (unbeknownst to me) that he essentially becomes mute! If he does manage to muster out a few words his speech is very slurred. I had to carry him home to bed and would pop back out to continue the night on with my own friends on both occassions. boyfriend has never seen the issue with either night and doesn’t understand how it would embarrass me.

My friends were more than surprised when I revealed he was 32 and they were very quick to say he comes off as very young and immature. The last thing I want to do is introduce him to my immediate family out of fear he’ll embarrass me AGAIN!

His house is filthy and he’s spoilt! Mummy and daddy have paid his bills and insurances up until this August. When it came to paying his first electricity bill and car insurance renewal he was none the wiser and needed guided help. He has a degree in IT and software development.

He has been driving more than several years and inherited his car basically brand new. His dad always did the insurance and brought it to the garage for repairs and paid for them. Mummy has even offered to clean the house he also inherited several times but thankfully, boyfriend says no.

I asked him to help me clean his house one Sunday after I woke two hours early to get started and he give me the “you’re not my mum” and “stop annoying me” speech yet suggested another time I come out a day early to clean while he worked. The house is filthy, destroyed in mould, and smells of damp. Instead of buying new pillows for the bed, he wants to try and wash them first (despite being covered by mould and pillows being cheap).

Even when we text, he types like a child. He’s 32 but it’s still ‘bby’ not ‘baby’, ‘meh’ instead of ‘me’, and the conversation isn’t a whole pile of stimulating typically.

We all know love, lust, and infatuation can cloud our judgement, and blind us to a lot of red flags in a relationship. Sometimes a frriend/family member will step in and try to tell us that this person is not right for us and why. Do you think anyone is qualified to do that, or everyone should butt out even if there are red flags?