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My fiancé keeps criticizing my body. He says I need to lose more weight and get laser and do something different with my hairstyle, etc. But then he also desires and wants me physically. We both don’t believe in pre-marital but he has stared and touched and expressed what he wants when he is in the mood. Not sure what to make of this. When he criticizes basically everything, it seems like he isn’t attracted to me and doesn’t want me but then he also acts very different when he is in the mood and he still wants to marry me so it is very confusing. I am working on myself as much as I can — I work out every other day at 5am, I follow the calorie deficits, I am working on laser — but he feels like I’m not doing it fast enough. And I don’t think I’m hideous or he wouldn’t want to marry me and I wouldn’t have multiple people interested but he still berates perpetually and at this point, I am starting to hate myself so just trying to get some clarity on his behavior to try and rationalize. Is this a normal behavior?

He was away at college, that is where I knew him from. We were kinda friendly acquaintances, but generally had some low key sexual tension. He began to express more clearly that he was interested in exploring that side with me. I told him I was seeing other people bc I didn’t want him to feel played, an he said it didn’t matter to him. Since I live 30 minutes from campus he just spent the night. Yes, we hooked up and we slept in the same bed—twice except we didn’t go all the way the second time. Also had a couple head sesh’s/FaceTime/sexting. He’d call me boo & baby & send cute emojis. But 3 times he’d delete or block me and then reappear claiming his phone was messed up and you know I wouldn’t delete you boo... He graduated this term and deleted me again an I didn’t hear from him for a bit. I thought we’d had a little misunderstanding an never got to say bye so I sent a fairly long text saying I understand if he’s moving forward but was sorry I didn’t get to say bye an I enjoyed our times together an he’s the best. He sent back kind of a formalish but friendly reply thanking me for helping on his journey and being there an time together. That I was the best and he’d never forget another me that I know that. Sent back a 💞 an we didn’t talk since.

Fast forward 2 months later this girl adds me on tiktok. I accept an add her back. It’s when I start watching her videos that I discover she’s been dating this guy before last semester even started. One even showed her gushing over the texts he’d sent her like the same months we were hanging. I still wonder what made her add me to begin with but here’s the problem. Clearly I was a fling it’s fine, but I feel bad for her. Obviously he was playing both sides of it an that’s probably why he’d delete me. Should I tell her, especially since I no longer have the texts that clearly show him cheating. Or should I just let it go as him deleting me with no further contact shows he’s straightened up and being loyal now?