I (24 m) was brave enough to ask her (33 f) out finally and she rejected me with poor excuses, I followed my instincts, what am I did wrong?

[Barksdalejr]

we have a little gamer grp, close friends and family members and she was one of our friends, i know her from 2 month and every single day we chatting and talking and get to know each other, we had closer bond with the others, she was very talkative with me and only with me, we had a lot of common taste and interets, books movies hobby etc. i was always confident and have a very reliable future and carrer so does she, just 2 of us always stayed at night just to talk and she told me a lot of daily routines of hers and future plans, and she justified herself a lot, also she complained me a lot, i thought we had something to start, she is single and very antisocial sometimes cold as she told me, and she dont like to talk people, except me, always telling me a lot of things about her, i was happy, she is very sick and have diabetes and she can't have children so thats why she is alone, yesterday i telled her i like her and asked her if she wanna date me, and she said "poor thing, i want to reject you gently " and she said too much age gap, life form and distance (man im not a kid anymore and we live 30min from each other..) and i will have find another girl with better nature smarter and prettier, she is the smartest girl i met and she always told me how smart and mature i am, she was the only one who laughed my corny jokes, she said she live alone because she want to be alone because of her unhealthy status and because she enjoy being alone for she's more balanced, regenerated, and then suddenly she went agressive and she told me if i can't understand her she will block me, she said she will forget this conversation and we can continue our talkings, i said when i came home from work ( im a sailor) she was the best thing that happened to me and like her. i was in the friend opt. and we said sweet dreams each other and went sleep with no argue or something, i wrote to her and she suddenly removed from her friends, that was immature we agreed, my guts says there was more..

[Anonymous]

The following are your mistakes:

'yesterday i telled her i like her' (no mystery, no suspense, no attraction = boring)

'i said when i came home from work ( im a sailor) she was the best thing that happened to me and like her.' (same as above but in addition, she has nothing to prove, nothing to work for, no earning your time, attention or desire to date).

Overall you presented yourself as a friend with safe 'boring' conversation. In turn she responded by confiding in you. When ever you present yourself as a friend this is what they see you as. Thus what you did wrong was not building attraction. You did not build any sexual tension or move any of the talks toward attraction. You just stated how you felt and asked her on a date (she has no emotional reason to want to say yes). That is the way of logic, but women are emotional beings. Thus if you built attraction (as soon as you realized you were attracted), she may have been the one chasing you.

I've lost count of the number of women that showed me absolutely zero interest but then started chasing or wanting more after emotional connection, sexual tension and attraction were built. Flirting is a requirement unless you're Brad Pit...

But at your age, that will also be a disadvantage. I found much more interest from women at 30+.

[Barksdalejr]

Thank you for your time you read my story and thank you for you long and detailed answer, you are right, i was boring in your eyes but she always said how interesting am i so i thought its gonna be okay. I so frickin hate it, my age is a disadvantage, but i like older women and can't do anything about it. I'd hate to move on because im most of the time not interested in women and she really captured my heart. I know i should but secretly hoping she'll change her mind.. yes i admit, i'm pathetic

[Opinion Owner]

Ignore everything a woman says, only focus on her actions. If she says how interesting you are then her actions will match. Also one should never label themselves as pathetic or anything else weak or negative, we should only use kind powerful words to refer to ourselves.

[MrOracle]

You took your shot, and she said no. You have to move on gracefully. Always remember that when you are dealing with another person, they won't necessarily go along with your plans, and you need to be able to accept that and move on.

Find another girl, put some time and effort into her and try again. Always expect failure but be ready to be surprised with success.

[Changiis07]

No just explain what happened

[Barksdalejr]

what do you mean?

[Changiis07]

Oh sorry replied to the wrong one

[SnowedIn]

You did nothing wrong. @kramchancel and @MrOracle and @truth0225 all said great stuff. You asked. She said no. That's it. You didn't do something wrong. Sometimes someone wants tiramisu not creme brulee -- this time you were not tiramisu.

One note here: be very careful saying "poor excuses" or trying to argue or logic your way through or around them. They are not "poor" excuses; they are HER excuses. Respect them. Accept "no" graciously and gracefully and maybe you can still have a friend out of this.

[kramchancel]

Bro ots going to suck. But some people are just friendlier and likes to flirt for fun. I don't know how much youve invested on this girl and if you did its going to suck for a few months. What happened has happened. By all means think about what happened but never blame yourself

[Truth0225]

You were brave enough to ask her out, and I commend you for that. However, your bravery doesn’t mean that it will be reciprocated with a relationship. You asked her out, you got an answer, now leave it alone. Rejections are apart of dating

[Barksdalejr]

but she said she's gonna continue our friendship and suddenly she blocked me, we was always kind to each other why did she make such move?

[Truth0225]

She blocked you bc she felt that she cannot be friends with you when you feel the way you do about her.

[Barksdalejr]

do i have any option to talk with her again? i just want to talk with her and dont lose her friendship, i think i made a bad decision

[Truth0225]

If she is able to block you that easy, then she wasn’t your friend in the first place. Keep that in mind.

[Anonymous]

She's old man, who cares she did you a favor. Just drop it. And if she starts flirting with you rebuff her. Just because she likes gaming doesn't mean you need to be her game.

[Iron_Man]

Women like older men