Search Results: he makes me look bad

Disclaimer- don't judge, don't tell me to choose the one i love coz i don't fall in love.

1st guy-

•loves me from past 8 years and can not move on •i am his first love and has never dated anyone else coz he is waiting for me •doesn't know how to express well or care although he loves me but isn't able to make me feel much loved (this bothers me a bit). •his love language is roasting •better looking than the second guy and has better education and career. •mostly shares memes and always in a fun mood

2nd guy-

•loves me from past 2 years. •i am his first love •he knows how to express love and makes me feel so much loved and valued •his love language is taking care •has very bad academics (this bothers me a bit) •mostly talks about my problems and gives suggestions.

We’re currently in a dating app era & the idea behind dating apps seems practical yet you hear more bad than good things about them. Almost 30 & I’ve never been in a LTR, I have accomplished everything I currently want out of life but been able to find a quality guy. I’ve owned a condo & strive to eventually own a home in a few years, are dating apps to blame behind being single or is there more to it (aka am I the issue)? I’ve been told I’m attractive by all kinds of people for a good chunk of my life but I’ve never been approached in person by a guy I’d like to date (getting checked out doesn’t count).
The only times guys I find attractive have acknowledged me were on dating apps, it’s just there’s times where maybe I feel burnt out & can’t be bothered to end up meeting that guy in person.

Or when I feel like I have *options*/ I’m in a mood where I just don’t want to put in the effort. And when the app outlook looks dismal at a given moment (like now), I consider deleting & reinstalling at a later time. I get bored after communicating too long etc, it may seem like self sabotage topped with my terrible anxiety but I’ve never felt SO unsure about something in my life & that *something* is dating. Unsure if my lack of libido/lack of interest in being sexual might play a part (no health issues). There’s always that voice in the back of my mind that makes me think the right guy will change all of that but who really knows. I’m worried I’ll be shriveled up & when I finally have that drive, it’ll be too late to find a match. I heard an influencer say the other day that there shouldn’t be pressure or a rush to date, it’s an opportunity that’ll always be available.

TL; DR: Is dating hard for most? And is my case bad luck or someone unsure of what she wants?