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Many men are afraid to approach girls they don’t know, and women almost never do it; it’s very rare. I used to be scared too but in high school I had a social environment, so I could easily meet girls by finding common ground in classes, and since I was good looking and successful, it was easy. In fact, most of the time, they were the ones who came to talk to me.

When I went to university for engineering, the number of girls decreased a lot. I stayed without a girlfriend for a long time. I got tired of this situation, so one day I approached a random girl I liked in the library, found an excuse to start talking, gave her a compliment, and got her Instagram. While doing this, I was so stressed my hand was shaking when I gave her my phone. But I succeeded it felt like I had unlocked a new skill in flirting.

I’m curious can you cold approach? And are you comfortable doing it?

I think for most people, skydiving creates less stress than cold approaching.

I’ve been with my girlfriend Becky for a long time. I think I love her and I really enjoy spending time with her. However, she’s recently shared her ugly past with me. When she was in her younger years she had a rep of sleeping around.

She apparently was the school slut who got tagged teamed by the jocks. Becky even told me about how when she was 15 and had fuck buddies in their 30’s. And how when she was in university she dated 3 guys at once and caught chlamydia and gonorrhoea twice. Even used Only Fans to pay for school.

Even worse, she supposedly slept with other men when she was married. Her excuse was that her and her husband broke up and stayed married so he wouldn’t get deported.

After knowing all this I’m starting to look at her differently. Sometimes I see Becky the same way I see the woman in the picture. But it’s hard to leave Becky because she is trying really hard to make this relationship work. I’m a low value man with no proper education and job, and she makes feel like a high value man with the way she treats me. She really wants us to get married and keeps telling her friends Im gonna but her a ring. But it’s a tough decision for me.

She wants to meet my parents and I know they’re not gonna like her at all. My parents are and have always people skills. They can pick up on things.

The other day beck told me she’s having suicidal thoughts and being with helps her not think suicidal. She’s undergoing therapy atm.

I am a very late bloomer when it relates to romantic relationships and marriage. I didn't get my first real girlfriend until I was 29. I am now 30 and will soon marry this same girl. Me and this girl are each other's first real relationship. I was her first kiss and everything. She is 27.

I will say my parents are separated. I have an estranged sister who is 29 who has also alienated my parents. My mom has been really hurt by this, and my sister is refusing to attend my wedding despite being invited. To me, snubbing me and my bride at my wedding is irreparable (this is a entirely different discussion). All in all, my immediate family has been torn apart for years now. My separated parents live different places, and my mom still lives around locally.

I am staying at my mom's boyfriend's house tonight (long story... we are evicting a troublesome, leftist, nasty old tenant at my home that rents the downstairs), and my mom walks into the room I am sleeping in and hugs me while crying. My mom is a little sad I am growing up and getting married. She is happy for me, but I think with all the family turmoil and me moving on (I am a mommy's boy), it is hard on her a little.