Guys, Why would he keep me on loop for 3 after we broke up and also stay with a new girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

After breaking up from a longggg relationship (he said its not you its me, you didn't understood me, than I took your for granted, I didn't kew what to do with my life) he jumped on another.

The thing is he passed a bad episode with the death of a family member, and all these time he asked me randomly to stay with him cuz he felt bad.

I did it, even slept together (he was with a girl that her family knew, and told me he don't love her and also he slept with others ones). He also passed a heavy depressed episode. I stayed as close as he let me, making myself feel down as well.

Fast forward I asked him if he wanted to see me with other person or with him, and gave him a chance to think about it, cuz I was fed up. He told me I could see him and other people cuz he was not sure what to do in his life.

I blocked him. Two weeks later he contacted me via instagram saying we need to talk. He broke up with that girl cuz she realize he cheated on him and exposed him on his friends.

Honesty I didn't know he was in a "serious" thing, I realize they were living together for almost one year later. He told me he loves me and want to try again and asked all of these serious questions, but I was a bit cold cuz its weird to jump so fast.

I was hoping he wouldn't give up but he went beck on depressive mood, telling me how he's not worth it and how he loved her too and didn't respected both me and her, but mostly her. How her made everything for him etc. Again, he told me I can look for other people too but also stay in contact with him If I want😮‍💨 told me how he's a bad person many times.

I asked if he wanna get back with me he said I dunno. Asked If he wanna get back with her he said also dunno. He admitted to have feelings for both. He never cheated on me he admitted he never felt to do that.

Honestly, is he just filled with guilt an remorse for what he did, or he's really in love?

[ohsheeT]

Because you allow it

You really need to be honest with your self. This is not about him this is about you. And you believing in someone one that doesn't believe him himself

The sad part is if he does it's a game.
And I'm sure everything that he has told you. He has told every other girl in the last few months. The same thing he has a way of using his words. Putting himself downo for you to feel sorry for him

The thing is, we are our thoughts. Every thought that he's telling you about himself is going to happen. Even deeper than it is right now. Because that's who we are what we think about ourselves as soon as we decode

In life when we are born, we are giving a gift that gives this choice. We get to choose who we want to be alive by the things we say and do


You need to think about you.
You follow him down into that rabbit hole. It's gonna be hard for you to get back up. Because I guarantee you. He just keeps taking himself down further and further.
That's what feeling sorry for you down further and further.

It's not that we fall down in life. It's how we get back app and keep going. That's what the lesson is no matter what and anything and everything

He has found people to bring them down into that hole with him. I can't tell you what to do. It's your word, but your words tell me you have a beautiful heart. You don't need to do this

I have a person with a big heart. I do a lot of things for a lot of people but this guy I can read like a book.
And I see you're getting playou. Need to keep moving on. Because there's a real guy out there. That will not put you through this c*** He's gonna be in this crap for years and years to come. You don't even need to associate yourself with it

Say what you have to say to him to make him grow up, but then walk away and stay away. Otherwise you're gonna be in the same boat. You will bring you down we are who we hang with

[dwreborn]

Probably a little bit of both it sounds like you guys should separate with no contact to see what happens he could just be worried about being alone which is selfish its not fair to either one of u girls maybe he is just struggling with the choice that's why it's never great to replace one love with another so quick give time to heal process the good and bad times if it was meant to be u guys will find it again good luck

[Asker]

Will the no contact help if he's in depression state?

[dwreborn]

I wish I was more of an expert on depression I think no contact will make him realize you might not be willing to wait for him to come around but iam sure you don't want to send him into further depression maybe try consulting someone about it but just remember don't stop worrying about you own mental and physical health that comes first you can't help people without yourself being all good

[Anonymous]

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