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I actually felt sad for this infidelity story I've once read at Reddit. It was written 2 years ago. The woman was 39 (she must be 41 by now) and her now husband cheated on her with a co-worker. He spent some of his wife's money on the affair and took her homemade meals and desserts to secretly feed the other woman. He cheated as a 40 year-old married man with 3 kids. He ended up having a mid-life crisis and supposedly wanted to see what it was like having sex with another woman, even briefly fell in love with the other woman. She forgives and agrees to marriage counseling. She felt she owed him one and clearly wants to save the marriage.

Flashback to 2002 when they were just boyfriend and girlfriend:

When the woman was much younger (then 19 years old), she cheated on her then boyfriend (now husband) with his best friend Tony. He caught her in a compromised position, both asleep in the couch with the TV running on. Supposedly the guy was in boxers and she was with jeans on but only with bra on top. Apparently they had already finished doing the deed by then and there was alcohol. It was an affair going on for 3 months. She's been repentant for all those years, never cheated again and was faithful as a fiancee and wife. She got forgiven and (yes he still proposed 5 years after the cheating incident, claiming he forgave her completely and wouldn't bring it anymore) they still got married.

https://www.reddit.com/r/survivinginfidelity/comments/yozb12/my_husband_40_m_and_i_39_f_are_working_things_out/

On the woman's previous post, she actually is full of guilt all over again and feels she deserved it. Did she deserved to get cheated on 20 years later? She cheated in 2002 as a 19 year-old girlfriend with no kids. He cheated as a 40 year-old married man with 3 children?

Okay first of all, I’m not being racist.

Okay so my best friend who loves theatre and plays. She told me there’s an audition for Anne Frank and she’s thinking about playing Anne Frank and asked he if I should go for it and as her best friend it’s my duty not to be honest with her.
Well as her best friend, i won’t sugarcoat it. I told her, “Well I won’t sugarcoat it. Do you really think you’re going to be the title role? I mean we learned about her. Plus Anne Frank is a white girl, petite and small structured. You’re…. no offense tall. You’re tall, black and large built so do you really think they’re going to cast you as Anne Frank? Maybe you should audition for another role in the play.” She gave me an angry glare. She told me off saying I’m just hating and it doesn’t matter what color the actor or actress is. She also told me if I was her real best friend I would support her. I do support her, but she asked me for an honest answer and best friends don’t lie to each other. I mean Anne Frank is a history! So it’s a historical play they’re doing.