Friend hasn’t answered my messages in almost a month, I confronted her about it?

[Anonymous]

So we talk on a few platforms. She does take her time for all of them but I have noticed when I type a lot more because it’s about something going on with my life she will take her time to respond. I mean like 3 days or a week. This hasn’t just happened on WhatsApp, but it is mainly WhatsApp because that’s where we talk in more detail than SC or Instagram DMs.

To put a few things in context, she’s a married woman with a job and a life. I do get she won’t be as available as she was 4 years ago when we were best friends and told each other everything, and sent paragraphs (we recently got back in touch after 4 years). I’m just wondering if this is one of those situations where she doesn’t care to know about my life like she used to, but won’t say it to my face. I’m hoping someone will just say it to me straight on here if that’s the case, maybe I’m missing something obvious. Thanks

[HollyK21]

Maybe this is just a matter of meeting and catching up in person or having a phonecall/FaceTime rather than texting. Her priorities are different now, and checking WhatsApp of wherever you two message just may not be much of a priority anymore. It’s nothing against you, her messages at least seem sincere, you may just have to engage with her in person of phone calls now to vent and chat how you’d like.

[Asker]

To be fair she has asked to meet up twice now but both times were when I was going abroad so I wasn’t able to do so

[HollyK21]

Okay, well with that in mind then maybe it’s a good idea for you to take the initiative this time and ask her to hang out. Trust me I get where you’re coming from, and I’m sure you don’t wanna feel like you’re going out of your way somehow or putting in more effort when it isn’t reciprocated. But this doesn’t strike me as that sort of situation. A lot can change in 4 years about a person, and if this is who she’s become as a woman and a wife, all there’s left to do on your end is either adjust or let her go. It’s not a decision to make lightly but your peace of mind comes first.

[Asker]

Thank you, I really appreciate your outlook on this. I’ll ask to arrange something once I’m back in the UK, and hopefully meeting her up in person will help navigate how things are between us.

[HollyK21]

No problem, hopefully it works out! Also, we don’t know each other and you may not feel comfortable but if you’re needing to chat, my inbox is always open☺️

[Asker]

You’re so sweet, thank you 🩷