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Traditional gender roles in relationships are changing as more women take on high-paying jobs and become primary breadwinners. However, some men and women still cling to traditional gender roles, including the belief that women who out-earn their male partners will ultimately lose respect for them. But evidence suggests that it's not the mere fact that women are earning more than their partners that causes the loss in respect, but it's the lack of balanced responsibilities between two partners in the same household.

According to reports I mentioned in an original blog post, married women perform about twice as much more unpaid domestic work than their male partners. Some research suggests that even when wives are the primary earners and both partners work outside the home, married mothers are still doing the lion’s share of the housework and child care.

If you found yourself always doing significantly more around the house than your partner, even when you're contributing an equal share of the household finances, how would you approach this to make things more balanced? At what point would you simply walk away from the relationship or marriage?

Assuming you do not yourself adhere to gender roles. if you do then this question would seem unnecessary and odd 🙏🏼

This is not judgement against anyone’s preferred style of dating. And this is not about trying to change anyone. This would be someone who thinks they want a “fluid roles based on situation & competency not gender, egalitarian relationship’. As apposed to ‘hierarchal or strictly gender role based relationship’

So for example. They do not think they care about gender risks it’s not something something they say or think they are looking for but they have I become I explicably bothered if you’re a girl and you initiate a date or you are a boy and you ask her to take care of the plans.

personally I do not care who does what, I don’t want to control the situation and I do not want to be controlled. In dating like in a relationship I would want a team effort with people playing their strengths which will be unique to each person and hopefully comparable with their partner. I woke it get along with someone who disturbed if there is not behavioral segregation…

However, if someone had unconscious expectations of rigid gender roles, but did not consciously require it, I guess whether I stayed would depend on if they really were ok with things being fluid or only thought they were but deep down they wanted the gender role situation. I guess that’s take a bit of talking and some time to sort out.

I recognize certain traits may be more pronounced in each sex respectively, and I have nothing against anyone doing what they have natural feel for. I’m just not comfortable making an issue out of it and forcing anyone to perform in ways that they don’t gravitate towards naturally just to fulfill the idea that it “should” come naturally.

also I understand my example was heavily cliche’ — this is hypothetical and initiating is a fairly ubiquitous occurrence in dating so it seemed universally comprehensive & relatable. 🤷🏻‍♀️