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I have an ex right before I met my wife and after we broke up I deleted every pic I had of her and moved on. A couple months later my ex and I broke up, I couldn't stop thinking about her so I looked at her IG and she posted pictures that I had taken of her. Every few month since our breakup, I get bombarded with thoughts of her and I look at her social media and I see pics of places we've been together or pics I took of her. I don't think she wants to get together and I got over her fairly quick. I married someone this year that is perfect for me and have even stranger and stranger connection. I've thought about my ex twice since we broke up. The first time was on my birthday a couple months after our breakup and an hour later she wished me a happy birthday. The next time was yesterday when I saw a YouTube video showing a destination I went to with my ex and it was all the same places we visited together wo I started thinking about her and the places I visited with her. An hour after watching the video, she messaged me. I don't have the impression she wants to get back together but the connection we have is weird.

My wife and I have an even stronger connection. We've had people over to our house and for some reason I felt the need to food. Ten minutes after I did that, my wife asked me to order food and every time I've ordered, it's been from the place she's thinking of. This happens all the time and it's like we're in sync. But it gets even weirder when she starts answering questions that I've got in my head and before I can even ask, she's already answered my question, When I ask her about this she says that she knew what I was thinking. When we were long distance, she said that she could always feel me next to her. She always struggled being clingy and thought that was why she was single but when we started dating, she felt that I was always there and it cured her clinginess.

I'm curious if anyone else has had someone show up after you've thought about them.

Me and my ex were together for some time, after the death of my girlfriend before her.

She kept me comforted and helped me get through it. Once I felt well enough, or so I thought, I wanted us to give it a try. But it became apparent that she didn't love me the way I loved her, and eventually, she broke it off, on good terms.

We contacted eachother now and then, just to catch up on how our families are doing. I asked her how her mom was doing, but instead of a reply from her, a guy claiming to be her boyfriend said "stop talking to my b! tch, I fuck her good".

Hearing that hurt, that message told me all I need to know about her boyfriend, if she considers him so. It tells me that he doesn't respect her, and doesn't consider the act of mating as a special thing that people who love eachother share with one another.

Although, I've moved on from her, and I'm in a new relationship, I invested just a little too much to ever not have any feelings at all for her. But most of them are me wanting her and her family to do well, and it's apparent to me that who she's with now doesn't respect her, and she deserves a man who does.

It didn't seem that she was much interested in talking to me, anyways, so I'll oblige, I won't talk to her, anymore. However, I received a call, and when I asked who it was, he told me it's "my exe's name" new boyfriend, and he said, "Look, my name is" But I quickly cut him off by saying "I don't need your name, my first impression of you tells me all about who you are. I have no wish to speak to you". Before hanging up.

He's made no attempts since then. For me to have such a strong dislike for a person to not even want to converse with them is quite an insult. But I figured that a strong insult, combined with my brushing him off, is all he deserves from me.

I wonder if I let my emotions get the best of me, I'm not an emotional person, but when it comes to love, I can't help but be a little emotional. Was I too mean?

The most painful relationships (both romantic and not) to me is when somebody who once thought very highly of you later changed their opinion. Their reasons may or may not have been justified.

But I think seeing someone who once thought a lot of you change their opinion hurts the most. It usually happens when somebody has an initial false image of who they really think you are.

It’s one thing if you put on a front but quite another if you were being yourself and they had this positive image of you. Sometimes people get very good first impressions if they met you at an ideal moment.