Me and my ex were together for some time, after the death of my girlfriend before her.
She kept me comforted and helped me get through it. Once I felt well enough, or so I thought, I wanted us to give it a try. But it became apparent that she didn't love me the way I loved her, and eventually, she broke it off, on good terms.
We contacted eachother now and then, just to catch up on how our families are doing. I asked her how her mom was doing, but instead of a reply from her, a guy claiming to be her boyfriend said "stop talking to my b! tch, I fuck her good".
Hearing that hurt, that message told me all I need to know about her boyfriend, if she considers him so. It tells me that he doesn't respect her, and doesn't consider the act of mating as a special thing that people who love eachother share with one another.
Although, I've moved on from her, and I'm in a new relationship, I invested just a little too much to ever not have any feelings at all for her. But most of them are me wanting her and her family to do well, and it's apparent to me that who she's with now doesn't respect her, and she deserves a man who does.
It didn't seem that she was much interested in talking to me, anyways, so I'll oblige, I won't talk to her, anymore. However, I received a call, and when I asked who it was, he told me it's "my exe's name" new boyfriend, and he said, "Look, my name is" But I quickly cut him off by saying "I don't need your name, my first impression of you tells me all about who you are. I have no wish to speak to you". Before hanging up.
He's made no attempts since then. For me to have such a strong dislike for a person to not even want to converse with them is quite an insult. But I figured that a strong insult, combined with my brushing him off, is all he deserves from me.
I wonder if I let my emotions get the best of me, I'm not an emotional person, but when it comes to love, I can't help but be a little emotional. Was I too mean?
Oooh. This is a terrific question. Can I tell you? If you're ASKING the question, it's probably because you already know you were too harsh. (Our brains are funny that way.) To be fair to you, though, it wasn't just a random fling and then you're now a jealous ex. It looks like you invested time into this girl and genuinely cared for her… which doesn't always stop just because you split up and see other people. BUT… it's up to your ex to choose whether she's going to be talking to you or not… and it looks like she's choosing not to. It's also honestly a little odd that the new guy would be calling you — what does he want, pointers? You're fine in having just hung up. IMHO, block them both and just move on with your life, ok? You seem like you've already been through a lot.
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It's not so much that I felt that I was too hard on him, more that I wanted an outside opinion to call it like they see it, if I let my emotions get the best of me.
Cause if they did, I need to work on that and develop as a person. It's not so much that I'm jealous, it's just that she did so much for me after my fiance died that I considered her as close as family, and her family are good people.
I know this because I've talked to them, while they held their necessary skepticism, they welcomed me with open arms when they saw that my intentions with her were more pure than 24k gold.
While she didn't really treat me well, she's still a good person, and a good person should be treated well. Calling her a "bitch" and treating her like a sex doll isn't treating her well. But, that's her problem now, not mine.
As far as why he called me, he wanted to sell me some nonsense about how he didn't mean to refer to her that way, and speak of love making in those words.
He may have wanted to apologize to me about it, but if he had, the apology would not be accepted.
His message told me all I needed to know about him, and I had no interest in whatever lies he wanted to sell to me, in an attempt to get me to stay quiet about how he spoke of her to her family, who would beat the hell out of him for that.
The person he needs to apologize to is her, not me, and him calling me tells me that he's not really sorry, he just wants to upsell his nonsense that I had no desire to hear, cause I already know the kind of person he is
Well… to be fair, it’s an emotional situation. I’d say you’re hanging up like that did show a spark of temper, but what was he calling to bug you for anyway? He seems out of line in contacting you.
I think to be in a relationship with a woman you need to constantly reassure them so why not do the same for the poop dude. Clearly something bothers him so what’s the point to make it an argument. Especially if you aren’t doing anything wrong. Put the pic up and change the subject
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