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We met on a dating app—no, not Tinder—and he messaged me first. We talked for a few days and clicked fast. We’re both artists learning tattooing, traded art, hyped each other up, then moved to texting. He kept asking for selfies, calling me beautiful, and sending his back. He was cute, fit, tall enough without being towering, and covered in tattoos like me.

He wanted to hang out and hook up, but I needed childcare, so we planned for him to come over while my six-month-old napped and I monitored the baby the whole time. He even offered Starbucks and gas-station snacks, which I declined. When he arrived he hugged me, took off his shoes without being asked, admired my gaming setup, and cuddled with me on the couch. He complimented my hair, touched it gently, then kissed me. We hooked up and the chemistry was real—he was attentive, no awkwardness, very compatible.

Afterward we talked, and he said he’d probably come over again the next day. Before he came over I’d warned him my ex’s belongings were still there in trash bags by the door. When he noticed them at the end of the night he tensed and said I should get rid of them. I agreed, and he relaxed. He hugged and kissed me goodbye. I noticed dimples I’d never seen in photos, told him they were cute, and he abruptly said goodnight.

The next day he barely replied. Then out of nowhere he texted, “I think I’m gay lmao.” I couldn't tell if he was kidding. He said he was serious and had been thinking about it. I noticed he’d unmatched me on the app. I respected it but asked if this was just him disappearing after sex. He said it wasn’t about me, just stuff in his head. I told him if he ever figured things out he could text me. He promised he would and sent a black heart. We haven’t spoken since.

I’m 25, he’s 27, and I’d just left an abusive relationship. I wasn’t naïve—just enjoying my freedom. Still, the whole thing doesn’t make sense.

This has happened for the third time
The first time was someone I worked with he was obsessed with me we had sex for around two weeks then he just went weird. The time we had sex first he lasted 3 seconds then the next time was about 5 mins and much better.

Then I had a date from someone who messaged me who is never met on social media and we had sex. He lasted about 3 seconds and I accidentally laughed at him. He did try to come over again but I was alseep by the time he got to my house. Then he tried again but I was fed up with him taking ages to reply.

Then the third was someone messaging me again and he lasted a lot longer about 5 mins first time maybe less. Then we had sex multiple times that night but again he’s ghosted me

Why does this keep happening? They all say I’m super pretty and the sex is amazing but then it ends like this. I do have 3 kids and don’t want a relationship and have said I’m not closed to it but not seeking it.

Am I that bad looking and the sex that bad?

He had mentioned his type is big boobs after I made a joke when he asked me to send him photos of mines again. He said mines are amazing and was buzzing when he saw I actually had boobs because he thought I was all bum. I have a big bum and small boobs. He even said he’s becoming a bum guy from me.

He’s told people he’s obsessed with me before even seeing my boob size etc.

We’ve had sex a few times and it’s been good he does finish very quickly but we’re getting there

But he’s so off sometimes with me. He is busy but it just seems he doesn’t want to put time in to it but then says he really likes me and he’s super keen and goes on about how much he fancies me and likes me. For example he canclled on sat and then the next week said he could only see me one day and I said why not these days and he said i suppose I could. But only offered to see me one day the following week. It’s only been 3 weeks. The first week he came over twice and it was late and he has work super early. Then ended up cancelling sat which wasn’t his fault why he did. But to only offere me one day the following week seems weird to me. So I just said let’s leave this I don’t want to take it further for him to say no please let me come on that day and we will talk etc. I ended up cancelling on him because I’m exhausted and he wants to see me on Sunday now.

I do think I’m maybe. Overthinking the how he is with me

But can this even work if I’m not his type? Is this why I get this feeling?

I know how much of a guy like big boobs he wants that and only that just like if a guy likes big bum he does. I’ve a big bum so everyone I’ve been with was obsessed over it