Search Results: good age for first time

I will be married (first marriage) shortly after turning 31. I don't even have my life and career together, but am I really going to wait another 10 years or so? I had a couple of setbacks, and I am already having to change careers for a second time now. I have a good-sized living space to myself, but I am not even a homeowner and own just 2 real assets, one of which is my car.

I was hoping I would be further along by my age now, but shit happens I guess. Better late than never, and I am happy to have finally found the love of my life.

Seeking advice. Gonna try to keep this short, but basically I'm asking you ladies to review my circumstances below and my current age and see if I'm screwed on dating or not. Also I'm an introvert so any pointers to help with that is welcome as well.

I've only been in 2 relationships my whole life. First was my 11th grade year. 2nd was while I was in the military. Have not dated since 2014 and still have NEVER had sex.

I left the military in 2015 at age 22. 2015-2018 was just simply me being to myself to heal. 2018-2024, a LOT of things went wrong for me. In that time frame, I was homeless (the entire time), went through bankruptcy, then worked Corrections, lost those jobs and had to heal from new trauma there. Had ZERO support.

October 2024 I get the job I currently have. November 2024 I get an apartment. I'm happy at my job. The job combined with my VA Disability check ensures all my bills are paid and a small bit left over. Got a roof over my head. Still fixing my credit and paying a few debts off, but I feel stable for the first time in my life.

Now, the only thing that feels missing is a good woman at my side. But, I've been in survival mode so long that I'm not sure where to begin.

I am referring to the decade 2000-2009. Most of my school-age years were during this time. I would have to say my most favorite childhood year was 2004.

I believe the early-to-mid 2000s were the best, just prior to the Obama era. Most of this PC and SJW bullshit wasn't running rampant, and I feel there was order overall and everything held together fairly well. The divisiveness wasn't as apparent, but then again, I was an innocent child.

2004 was the year of the first SpongeBob Movie (before the show went to shit), mainstream pop and alternative was good, and I was rocking that GameCube, enjoying my Zelda Windwaker and Crash Bandicoot: Wrath of the Cortex. The town I grew up was a good, upper-middle-class family suburban town. It wasn't too crowded or crazy. The megachurch I went to had a good summer Vacation Bible School Program with state of the art performing arts with a Lord of the Rings theme. I had an awesome babysitter and we used to act goofy and make noises. Everything was still affordable and I didn't remember any money troubles. Kids still played outside and rode bikes and went trick-or-treating during Halloween. Christmas was still magical.

There are most certainly good things I have now that I wouldn't trade. Still, I reminisce about the good old days.