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The following post Cones from Quora. And the Topic is Abortion and gender disappointment.

Alissa From Quora

"I’m having a boy and I’m not happy about it. What should I do?

I felt exactly the same way when I was pregnant with my son. I was extremely upset for months thinking of hypothetical things having a son would possibly mean (i. e. high car insurance premium, forgetting my birthday, forsaking his family for his future wife). I did not cope well, and can you believe some self righteous, arrogant relatives actually shamed me for it? That is quite an unproductive thing to do, so I will not do the same to you.

My advice to you for the time being is just to concentrate on having a healthy pregnancy, take prenatal vitamins, keep up with your prenatal care and try to avoid becoming sick. A baby boy is very attached and loving toward his mother when he is small. If you try again for another child, perhaps consider going to one of those specialty IVF clinics to guarantee a girl. I wish you all the best!"

Do most women feel this way?

My girlfriend has a recent friend, that she barely knows, that she recently had an unplanned abortion.

While having dinner the three of us, my girlfriend without reason started treating her harshly and with condescend. Like she didn't know shit about pregnancies or that if she wanted to know how much is to split the bill she can divide it by herself.

After that I was so disgusted that stopped meeting her for the last week.

That said I told her not to do such things plenty of times in the past. And while it seemed she had improved, from time to time she acts like this. Which makes me super uncomfortable.

So maybe I'm sugar coating the situation, and I need an honest answer. Do you think my girlfriend is a bad cruel person who I shall stay away from?

Not saying you can’t care about both. But what’s more important for you?

The economy and hyperinflation impacts everybody. It especially impacts the working class and minorities who are struggling just to get by day by day.

Sure some people are more fortunate than others. If you are high income earner and/or were given raises that matched inflation then you could care less about this. Some people are financially supported by others and don’t have to worry about paying rent, mortgage, putting food on the table, etc. So maybe this hasn’t hurt you but you would have to be blind and/or very arrogant to see how bad things have gotten inflation wise in the last 4 years.

Abortion is a sticky topic. I am not going to judge any woman on her who had a past abortion or plans on getting one.

But I just have to ask is having an unplanned pregnancy some sort of an inevitable event for women? Is it just 100% unavoidable that this is going to happen to you?

You want to have sex, fine. I also know that no contraceptive is 100% reliable. But really if you and your partner are responsible the chances of having an accident are very low nowadays. Not impossible but not likely.

I just don’t understand why abortion is such a huge deal given the problem can be avoided in the place if you are a responsible adult.

Anyway I plan on getting some long rants and angry responses on the second part of what I said above. But just saying.

Since women have the right, through abortion, to escape any responsibilities for having sex and creating a child, should men also have the right to a "paper abortion" to legally shed any obligations to support the child?

My fiancé wants to us to co-parent her nice, and sign her life away to be godmother to her friend’s kids. Which means I’m responsible for those kids if she takes them in, which I really don’t want.

I never planned on having kids. Neither did she, which is why we started dating in the first place. We both agreed that kids aren’t for either of us to a point where she even had an abortion.

Also, she keeps trying to talk me into having a vasectomy and I keep telling her “no”. I was supportive of the abortion because I don’t wanna put in the work/money into raising kids.

This morning we had the discussion about being the god mother to her friend’s children and her nice. To be honest I don't know if I wanna be with her if I have to raise another man’s children.

I asked her “why would you have an abortion and still adopt?”. Her response was “because I don’t have to birth them. My niece is my flesh and blood who’s apart of me, so you must treat her like your own child”.

She’s so anti having kids but wants us to be involved with everyone’s kids. It’s really fuckin annoying!!!

Would I be an assholes for walking away from her?

I’ve been with my girlfriend for 2 years and our plan is to get married by December.
My girlfriend is dead set against us having kids. She doesn’t want kids but wants me to be a second dad to her friend’s kids. She’s even leaving her will to her friend’s kids.

I’ve never fancied the idea of kids. I don’t even like kids, accept recently I’ve been thinking it would be cool to see a mini me. What’s even worse is she’s pregnant right now and has an abortion appointment booked.

I’m ok with her not wanting kids, her body her choice. But I don’t wanna be responsible for someone else’s kids either. I never wanted to date a woman with kids, but I kinda think this is worse than dating a single mom.

So please tell me. Am I selfish? Or is she?