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I recently met a man on a dating app, and things were going great with him initially. Within the last week, he went utterly radio silent in communicating with me (even through text). I confronted him about it a couple of days before our 3rd date, and he disclosed how he had a situation with someone else he was seeing (we weren't exclusive) where it affected him so severely that he didn't have it in him to talk to anyone for that long. I thought that was weird since, on the 2nd date, he disclosed that he liked me and only needed a few more dates before asking me to be his official girlfriend. I didn't see a point in him speaking to other women either since our goal of dating is marriage, and we have similar goals.

I met with him today for our 3rd date, and the date was okay. We weren't as expressive as we were during our 2nd date, but we had good conversations. I asked him about his intentions with me since I was confused about the other situation, and he told me that we were on dates and would see if he wanted me to be his girlfriend. He asked if I told my family about him, which I said not really since he and I aren't in a relationship. Then, he disclosed that he showed a picture of me to his family and told them about me, and they said, "She's a pretty lady."

I don't know what this means at all. I don't know if that's a good sign that he likes me and will ask me to be his girlfriend soon or not. I know he has a good relationship with his family, so I think they might've asked if he found someone, and that's why he showed me, but I'm just assuming. We haven't had sex or even kissed throughout our dates, but that's boundaries we set up to ensure that we are genuinely compatible besides that aspect for now. What do you think?

Sorry if this is confusing, but I (24f) and my guy friend, let’s call him Jake (23m) have been friends a few years, and our relationship has always been complicated. He can be a real jerk to our friend group (he tends to blame this on being autistic), but he’s always let his wall down around me. I first thought he liked me when he started going out of his way for me; like offering to pick me up from work since I don’t drive, or going to workout classes with me, for example. And then again, when we were watching one of our shows, and I curled up under a blanket on the opposite side of the couch and he asked to share, and put his arm around me. Although, he moved after 5 mins.

But what has me believing this is what happened at our group friendsgiving on Friday. First of all, during dinner he tried to take my drink, and then I told him to ask me for a sip, which he did. Then we were discussing his dating life as a group, and then he said something like “I wouldn’t sleep with (insert my name), but I wouldn’t mind second base” and winked at me. Then, we were all talking on the couch, and I was tired, so I told him to move so I could elevate my feet. He told me to just put them on him, then he proceeded to wrestle me off him. He also took my drink out of my hand to drink from it, and then, while I was talking, hugged me.

Later, all the friends were on my balcony, and when we started to go inside I noticed Jake hanging back, so I asked if he was okay, and he said he held himself to too high of a standard, and he said he felt bad pushing me away because he liked talking to me and that it was easy to talk to me. There was a weird tension between us, and I mentioned I hadn’t seen him in a while so I missed him. He said something snarky, but then admitted to missing me too.

All of our friends thought there was something up. He’s also going to a football game with me alone that he originally declined because no one else could go. I feel like he likes me, but I don’t know.