Why is it so hard to get into a relationship these days, but I still want to do it? What are your thoughts on that?

[SeaStorm1]

I know that finding a long-term relationship is getting harder and harder. Throughout my dating and relationship experience, some of my previous ex-boyfriends have been cheaters and one has turned out to be toxic. I have had a hit-or-miss experience with online dating. He turned out to be a player in our first meeting, so I checked his Facebook account to discover more information, and I rejected him upon seeing that he posted about multiple girls and his sister commented that he was talking to numerous girls. I also met another guy. After we went on the date, he sent me two texts about being uncomfortable with my mum being with me for safety reasons. He did have a learning disability. But I did end since he did sent a ultimatum and he was and he throught that we already in a relatiosnhip and through is was cheating on me. It wasn't even a relationship to begin with, and I did end things with the second guy. In the last text that the second guy sent, he said that we weren't compatible. The 3rd guy. He did get lost and was a bit late that I did metup with and did give me a box of chocolates and did apologise for being late and being lost. He setup the second date but did not able to make since he got ill but did let me know very early on. arrage the second date next week insteand. by the way we both brought our mums with us with first date. Costa coffee was closed when I got there. Why is it so hard to get into a relationship these days, but I still want to do it? What are your thoughts on that?

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8 mo

looking for proper opinions

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8 mo

I got a learning learning disability and i'm looking for helpful and advice with dating and relationship.

[Avcfhcic]

I think everyone craves love and longs to find a partner for their life, but I'd have to agree with you that it's very hard these days.
I think it's very normal that you want it even after bad experiences and you should use that as your motivation to continue trying to find the right man, put yourself in places where meeting people is possible like pubs and social events, even speed dating events. As well as online dating apps. You may as well try everything you can to maximise your chances.

I too really want to get with a girl but I find it very hard because of my looks

[SeaStorm1]

@avcfhcicI got the opposite i too good looking and get lots of guys that i don't want that turn out be player. cheaters. guys that I'm not interested in.

[Avcfhcic]

Maybe you need to be more careful who you're talking too. You should feel proud that you can attract all these people, as there are others (me) who attract no one and are alone.
I don't condone cheating at all, it hurts me deeply, but maybe you need to take a period of reflection to see if anything you do causes your previous partners to cheat?

[SeaStorm1]

Some of my previous partners did cheat but some didn't. One partner did turn out to be toxic.

[SeaStorm1]

Previous partner

[Avcfhcic]

You just have to keep trying. I know there's good guys out there

[Avcfhcic]

Lucky thing for you is you'll have a queue waiting for you

[SeaStorm1]

Is always has be more bad men that always queus for me. that is a bad queue and is not lucky at all.

[Avcfhcic]

You just have to find the one in the queue that isn't.
I'd rather have your situation than mine where my queue is empty and anytime I join a queue it's rejection

[SeaStorm1]

Is always going to be rejected and I'm get very sensitive. i also been rejected by men to. I'm done approach but ended rejected. being with lot of attention you likely get more attention and only get some men that just want sex and nothing. I don't want these men to queue but still do. It's a bad queue.

[aquamarine321]

It’s not difficult to get into a relationship, I think it’s difficult to find someone you’re attracted to start a relationship

[Grovermint]

All the people that I know at a personal level are either in or have had a relationship. Sure, it's difficult, but when has it not been? Everyone has their own wants and needs. The hard part is finding someone that does the same. I have had difficulties, but that's on me.

[SeaStorm1]

@grovermint
yep that has be with some of my friends are already in relationship. some guys in real life some did broke up and some already were in a relationship. is very hard to tell if guys only seem to be friendly then flirting.

[Wise4myage]

Ya just gotta keep trying and never give up.

[SeaStorm1]

that what i already been doing and this doesn't help much

[Wise4myage]

Then consider doing the exact opposite.

[SeaStorm1]

that also doesn't thanks for nothing.

[SeaStorm1]

doesn't work