Broke up with my younger girlfriend some days ago after 8+ years. Her reason was that she lost her feelings for me, she believes that people are always in love despite the years that pass. This is our second and I guess final break up.
We've had our ups and downs, and especially the last year was really tough for her because of family issues. She was distant the last 5 months, didn't have the energy for more intimate contact, she always said that she is that way due to her family problems. We always met up, went for walks, eating out, or cuddling at home, I supported her in every way possible even financially.
She went abroad on a small trip to see some friends, she does this almost every year nothing strange here. But she returned and ended our relationship. She told me that there isn't another, it probably is the truth, I don't have any clues to believe otherwise.
I should also add that things have calmed down at her family, and that all her close female friends have decided to end their relationships this year, and I think they played a role and influenced her. I believe the last part due to the way she talked to me when she ended things. She always was impulsive, she told me that she thought it well, I have my doubts about that due to her past behavior.
I texted her the next day, she responded later with a message which was clearly scripted by one of her friends. Since that happened I've unfollowed all her social media accounts and I've gone no contact.
Am I wrong to think that you can't be in love with someone like it is for the first months of a relationship, that it changes to something better along the way? Because that is her mentality apparently.
Should I break no contact after a month? I don't know in what mentality I will be by then, it usually took me a lot of time to get over someone, but I am also older and wiser now, I think. I know she might have moved on by then, and that will mean she has been lying and using me the last year only for support.
