Girl I met likes me but won't commit to a relationship?

[dtrain]

OK so I met this girl at a club over a year ago. We dated afterward and hit it off straight away. We were attracted to one another and had so much in common. She had mentioned to me on our dates that she had some previously bad relationship experiences (her last boyfriend abused her and the one before that cheated on her!) so she always said to me that she wanted to take things slow to which I was only happy to do. As the months went on we got closer and slept together on numerous occasions. At this point she said to me that she wasn't ready to commit to anything serious and needed more space. She also mentioned that her ex had been in contact with her and she felt she still hadn't moved on from him (despite being abused!). Obviously I was disappointed but felt it best I move on and meet other people. I started dating another girl and when she found out she immediately wanted me back saying she was now ready for a relationship. I stopped dating the other girl I just met to give it another go. Again as things began to get serious again, she backed off and said she wasn't ready to commit. I know she also had contact with her ex during this time. So again I was very disappointed and felt it best I move on. I met another girl shortly after and began dating her. Again the same thing happened, she found out and said she wanted me back, I stupidly believed her and gave her another chance only for a few weeks later for her to break it off again saying she still wasn't ready. Luckily this time I didn't cut off the other girl I was dating and managed to have a 6 month relationship with her. During this time, she would call and message me constantly and would often comment that she knew my new relationship was bound for failure. After I split up with my new girl, she was in regular contact with me and would regularly say to me how much she liked me but didn't want a relationship as she needed time to get over her previous bad relationships. she said she was looking to have fun but in the future there was a chance we could be together when the time was right. she said she wanted to be friends in the mean time and see what happened but stressed that she wanted to keep open the possibility of a relationship in the future. things were going well until one morning she rang me up and told me how she had a one night stand with an old friend (why she told me I'm not sure!). I was really upset as I still have feelings for her and told her I no longer wanted to be friends if she was going to sleep around and tell me about it. She got really upset and said that it was OK for me to meet other people but not for her etc.etc. I told her I wanted no more contact with her whilst she still just wants to have fun. she was really upset and told me again how much she really liked me but didn't want a relationship right now. Its been 3 weeks since we last spoke and I really miss her. What do I do? should I call her? Do you think she will ever call me again? I'm so confused!

[ghong]

Honestly, she's most likely stringing you along. She's been so hurt from previous relationships that she's scared to go into a new one. She likes the idea of having someone there to cuddle, have sex, talk to, etc etc...with no string attached. She's basically doing the same thing to you that her ex did to her not physical abuse but emotionally and mentally. Sorry to break it to you but you're "on the hook" which means that she likes you (probably not a relationship) but wants to be your friend and when you seek more, she feeds you a line that keeps your hopes up while at the same time semi rejecting you. I think she's just keeping you around as a backup. Basically she's telling you "I can't be with you---- right now". Did you ever think you may just want her because she doesn't want you? I say move on and completely cut off all contact with her. She'll realize what she missed, and when she does hopefully it'll be too late.

[dtrain]

I think your 100% ghong, thanks for your reply. I think she sees me as her 'Plan B', she wants to keep me interested and once she has exhausted all her other options, she will have me there just in case any of her 'Plan A's' don't work out.

I guess the hard thing is knowing that she likes me (why else would she be jealous when I start dating someone else) but won't commit and is looking to find someone better than me.

I just wonder if she will ever contact me again and realize her mistake!