Relationship expectations/standards for opposite gender friends?

[Anonymous]

Need unbiased opinions. Im committed/loyal to my girl and id never do anything to ruin my relationship. Our relationship comes first/so does she. I want to marry and spend the rest of my life with her. The type of men my girl expects if she is going to date/marry is that they do not have female friends/girl bestfriends (other than blood family/in laws-thats different). She has made that clear and when i knew she was the one, i cut off all my female friends. All i have are my boys, my fam/her fam and her. Lots of couples are practicing not having friends of the opposite gender (watch tik toks). Your partner/wife should come first. You should be afraid to loose your partner/wife instead of a random girl.

Anyway, there was this event that me and my girlfriend attended and an old female friend was there (i didn’t cut her off, but we lost touch way before i met my girl). I've made it clear to my girl I dont intend to become close friends or rekindle this close friendship i used to have with this girl (it was in highschool when we were close). I dont text, i dont call her and we dont have each others numbers-i would shut it down if my old friend wanted to hang out. At the event i introduced my girl to her (my girl rolled her eyes), and i just said hi how are you and talked about old times. I kept the convo. short, i talked to her for 10 mins only. I didn’t flirt with her, i wasn’t hitting on her. I was just saying hi. It became a huge fight and i feel like a POS. Now my girlfriend won't stop $lüt shaming my old friend on social media and there's tension between my boys (my guy friends are still friends with her). I can't really tell my girl to stop, then it will be another fight and she will think i am defending her. I just dont want her to be assured it was just a quick convo. I want us to be ok again. I really dont have female friends, but that mean i can't talk to other women? Does it mean i am not putting my relationship/soon to be wife first?

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5 mo

Since the event, i never talked to this girl at all.

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5 mo

Since the event, i never talked to this old female friend at all. It was literally a 10 minute convo. And the reason my girl is mad is not necessarily because i spoke to her for 10 mins, but because she feels it would make us close again, which i have made it clear to my girlfriend, that i do not intend to be friends or be close with other women, my girl is the only one. It just hurts me that there is lack of trust and that i wouldn't let another woman be close to me.

[Naruse]

Yeah no that is in no way a reasonable expectation and no offence but your future wife seems like a seriously insecure jealous person. You can't just enable this behaviour or it will never stop, I get that you love her but no one should have to jump through these sorts of hoops. If she loves you she should trust you, especially if you've given her no reason to doubt you, just be straight up with her, tell her that this makes you feel really shitty and that he behaviour is way over the line, encourage her to compromise with you for once.