The basic idea of dating girls who are intellectually stimulating intimidates me to no end. To narrow the scope, I am refering to those around my age group of 16-18 years of age.
A certain inferiority complex, which I must say is completely irrational if you start looking at my situation from a 3rd person point of view, would most certainly occur if I ever embarked on a relationship with the higher percentile of the opposite sex.
To give you a greater understanding to my present situation, I must say that due to my own idealized view of a true romantic relationship, perhaps perpetuated Hollywood movies by the likes of Tom Hanks and my own naivety to the realm of relationships --- I have a great disdain to the possibility of choosing a partner who cannot fit my expectations of an ideal women, who must possess the ability to at least understand topics that are of importance to my life.
My own hope of dating a girl who's smart (Not in the book sense as intelligence does not correlate with grades half the time, at least in my own opinion) is even made more improbable with the fact that I am actually a ... As my friend Nick would so elegantly put it - 'A pretty boy', hence implying that my own standards of girls would be placed on the upper echelons in terms of 'prettiness'. This only serves to decrease the probability or should I say increase the improbability of being able to choose a girl who I can be attracted to without feeling intellectually inferior, and being able to acknowledge all these without being faced with the irrational fear that I currently possess?
Being the a teenager filled with hormonal urges and insecurities that come along with it, I obviously want a relationship partner. As to whether my own high standards and inability to feel that I'm not being the settler in the relationship, how can I possibly deserve a girl who I may not appreciate as much as she appreciates me?
A certain inferiority complex, which I must say is completely irrational if you start looking at my situation from a 3rd person point of view, would most certainly occur if I ever embarked on a relationship with the higher percentile of the opposite sex.
To give you a greater understanding to my present situation, I must say that due to my own idealized view of a true romantic relationship, perhaps perpetuated Hollywood movies by the likes of Tom Hanks and my own naivety to the realm of relationships --- I have a great disdain to the possibility of choosing a partner who cannot fit my expectations of an ideal women, who must possess the ability to at least understand topics that are of importance to my life.
My own hope of dating a girl who's smart (Not in the book sense as intelligence does not correlate with grades half the time, at least in my own opinion) is even made more improbable with the fact that I am actually a ... As my friend Nick would so elegantly put it - 'A pretty boy', hence implying that my own standards of girls would be placed on the upper echelons in terms of 'prettiness'. This only serves to decrease the probability or should I say increase the improbability of being able to choose a girl who I can be attracted to without feeling intellectually inferior, and being able to acknowledge all these without being faced with the irrational fear that I currently possess?
Being the a teenager filled with hormonal urges and insecurities that come along with it, I obviously want a relationship partner. As to whether my own high standards and inability to feel that I'm not being the settler in the relationship, how can I possibly deserve a girl who I may not appreciate as much as she appreciates me?
Most Helpful Opinions