Do you think my nephew deserves this?

[Anonymous]

I'm 30, and I live with my mom. Reason being is irrelevant. My nephew who's 19, and his girlfriend who is 18 moved in a few weeks ago. I have a car that stopped running about a week ago, and my mom is letting me borrow one of her cars while I save up to get my car fixed. It needs a new transmission. My nephew, and his girlfriend share the same cat. It's not running right, and its leaking oil. My nephew is currently unemployed, but his girlfriend works so my mom said he could use her car (the one I use) so long as he only uses it to take his girlfriend to, and from work. Well, he took the truck this morning. I assumed he took his girlfriend to work, but after he was gone for two hours, my mom was suspicious. She asked me to take the truck, and go to the store to get some things for her. The truck was gone, so I told her the truck is gone. She texted my nephew asking where he was. He said that he went to the post office, and stopped off to hang out with a friend, and he totally forgot about the truck. My mom was pissed. She texted him saying "come home now..." my mom was leaving when he got home. She stared at him, and was like "I'm not happy with you at all. Get your ass out of that car, and in to the house. At least that's what my nephew said she said. I had a small talk with my nephew, and told him that he did screw up. He said "I know, what I did was fucking stupid" then I told him that "but you live and you learn. Consider this a lesson". Then he was like "oh I will, I'm never driving that truck again. Your mom terrified me". Anyways, I feel really bad for him, because without that truck, him, and his girlfriend are going to be in a very difficult situation. My mom just had me take the truck to the store to get some stuff, and I know he heard me get in the truck, and drive away. I'm afraid he thought that I was just taunting him, or something. What do you think? Does he deserve the way he's being treated?

[Anonymous]

Well give it a couple days and see if your mom lightens up a bit. You're both adults. But understand to her even if you are 50 years. Old will always in some ways be kids to her. Also you're her son, he isn't she probably has a lot shorter fuse with him.

[Dinklex3]

What do you mean does he deserve the way he’s being treated?

It’s not his truck. As peridot25 said, it’s her car, her rules. He was in the wrong.

[WhitneySnow]

Sounds like he was being a dick, but maybe I don’t know the whole story

[Asker]

Well, he lived with my sister, and brother in law before this, and my sister said that he would just take one of their cars all the time just because they said he could use it once. My bil would then need to drive to work, but then realized my nephew took the car. I'm pretty sure what he's doing is just taking advantage of people, but I still feel bad for the situation he's in.

[WhitneySnow]

Yeah I get it. I agree with your last sentence completely.

[Peridot25]

First off, that’s her car. Second, what she’s says goes. And third, since he broke your mom’s rules, she had every right to be furious. He may be 19 but he’s old enough to know better.

[Anonymous]

My dude you're 30 and still live with your mom... That is your first problem... I have been on my own since i was 16... What a shame that you're not grown up enough to live on your own.

[Asker]

I live with my mom, because she's an alcoholic, and can hardly take care of herself, let alone her animals, so I have to be there to do it.

[Opinion Owner]

That sucks. I retract my statement. I broke contact with my mom due to the same issues, She chose drugs and alcohol over being a mother to me and an adult.. Again i am truly sorry you're forced to do what you're doing.

As for the nephew, He has no job, he should have zero access to a vehicle if he can't afford one him self.

[Asker]

I'm sorry for how things ended up between you, and your mother. I've thought of just leaving, but i just can't leave her behind. Also I worry a lot for her animals, and I know she wouldn't let me take them with me.

[Opinion Owner]

I understand.