How can I get over my girlfriends past?

[Anonymous]

Dating my girlfriend for almost 5 years now, but something that she did in the first few months of our relationship was a major red flag but she seems to have acted nothing she did was wrong but it has been eating away at me for years. Trying to keep this short, before we met she was friends with benefits with my old friend and liked him. I make it a point to her that i don't want her talking to him so she removes him off instagram and then few months later as i grab a drink with the friend, i see her name drop down on his phone talking on snapchat. I felt like that was emotionally cheating and if she had the chance she would have gone back, i questioned do girls think that its okay to speak to the ex even after your boyfriend made it clear that it bothers him? Although the past few years have been good and showed that she loves me but there is always thoughts in my head saying i am her second choice. I feel like i broke myself fixing her.

[Anonymous]

It's understandable that you're struggling with your girlfriend's past and the fact that she had a friends with benefits relationship with your old friend. However, it's important to remember that everyone has a past and people to change and grow. It's also important to communicate openly and honestly with your girlfriend about your feelings and concerns. If you feel like you're constantly dwelling on this issue and it's affecting your relationship, it might be helpful to seek the guidance of a therapist or counselor who can help you work through your feelings and develop strategies for moving forward. It's up to you to decide whether you can accept your girlfriend's past and move forward with the relationship, or whether it's best for you to end things and move on.

[Asker]

thanks

[Opinion Owner]

You're welcome

[OlderAndWiser]

If this is so important to you, why did you stay with her for five years?

[kylee2437]

So personally, you either need to accept what happened and move on or break up with her. It’s completely unfair that you keep trying to hold her accountable for something that happened 5 years ago. You accepted it, move on from the problem or break up.

[Asker]

thank you

[Spongebobssocks]

Leave them both asap. Respect yourself. Any woman who does that doesn't love you. Leave now.

[Spongebobssocks]

Thank you for MHO!

I hope you find someone better!

[DextroShade]

Any contact with an ex is completely unacceptable, and from your story there is a good chance she's still fucking him. She shouldn't even be on these apps in the first place if she's in a real relationship.

[Iron_Man]

You guys need to go to counseling and talk about it

[shades777]

You don't you get a girlfriend whos past your comfortable with

[pethouse]

I don't know dog go to therapy and try to fix it or break up

[In_Trance]

So you saw the red flag, yet continued dating her...

[Anonymous]

Damn, that was 5 years ago. Get over it.

[Asker]

im genuinely asking, if its the other way around and you told your man you dont like him talking to your friend but see him talk her on a different app on the low, its no big deal?

[Asker]

and if that's a females response to everything that i said and felt, i feel regret for being so loyal LOL