Can you get over a partner's slutty past?

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A while ago I had a lot of bad luck with girls. I got talking with a random guy at a bar after a few drinks. We were drunk and he wasn't the mosty intellectual type and he said "you should just get your dick sucked to get over it", and he gave me a name and a number of a girl he claimed was real easy. Aparently it was a coworker of him and him and his friends/male coworkers always get a bj from her for their birthdays. And I'm talking about a group of 9 to 10 guys she does that to.

I did end up getting in contact with her and set up a date. I'm not the most forward type and it didn't lead to anything sexual. It was really fun though and we kept going on dates for 2 moths now. It has been going slow but I am getting feelings toward her and I get the feeling she's pretty serious as well.

I can't deny that what I have heard about her and what she does to her colleagues does kind of bother me. From some comments on an old facebook pic, I picked up that she has had very few relationships but many casual sex partners. On top of that, this guy showed me a picture of her blowing him which I now simply can't get out my head and it really bothers me, especially since she still works there and I keep thinking what if it's someone's birthday while we're going on dates? It's not like she is already my girlfriend.

How do I go about this? Should I talk about it? Cause it seems so weird to start that conversation. And If we got together, is it something guys can get over when time passes?

StephanieL · Accepted Answer

Honestly, I used to not care about a connection with guys before I had sex. I kept it secret but there were a lot of guys who knew I was down for some casual sex or even just give them a blowjob. So yes, like your "girlfriend" I have also given some guys a b-day blowjob. Only when I had a serious relationship again, I noticed why I probably should have just given bj's as a b-day present. Guys keep asking even if they know you aren't single. One time some guys put together some money to buy one of those guys I once treated, a blowjob from an actual prostitute. Then I realized I was seen as a free hooker to them. And I guess it sucks for my boyfriend or future husband that other guys see his girlfriend or even wife as a free whore.

That being said, she can change and be faithful. She probably will come to the same conclusion as I have. I am not a guy, but I would think you can look past that issue if she as a person is worth it. My husband just doesn't want to hear it, but he knows and it's not worth losing all the positives over.

Agape93 · Accepted Answer

Yeap. I don't care about body count. Long as you're clean and loyal, I don't give a damn

exitseven · Accepted Answer

I don't know if I could deal with it in a serious girlfriend. I only dated one girl who had a relatively large body count and I am only talking about 20. At the time i had a body count of two. Maybe she wants to change and you seem, like a really nice guy and that is what she really wants. This girl I dated asked me why i would get involved with a loser like her. I think she wanted something more out of life that a body count.

DCooper · Accepted Answer

Are you just assuming it's just her past that's slutty? What makes you think she isn't still playing the role of the town bike? Just because you haven't dipped your wick in it, doesn't mean everyone else isn't.

Shamalien · Answer

If you date this girl you’re a fking idiot buddy. If you’ve gone on more than 1 date with her and she hasn’t sucked you off then you’re really extra stupid.

when she’s taken a year or 2 off the dick maybe she’ll be repairable but until then…RUN

LazerBean · Answer

You got what you bargained for. If you don't want a slut girlfriend then use a little brain when choosing a girlfriend next time.

boggboss · Answer

Sorry mate are u a idiot u knew the type of stuff she got upto before hand so why would u move towards somthing serious whilst not liking what she does

Berethor · Answer

She is a slut, dirty and untrustworthy, why you dating an girl like that? are you cuck?

Anonymous · Answer

I couldn't care less about someone's sexual past, but I am not insecure.

panamared1 · Answer

Why worry about past, present and future are all that matters

MiamiMadness · Answer

I mean if you can get past those 9 to 10 Birthdays every year you’ll be great together

Anonymous · Answer

good luck having a future slut girlfriend, and don't cry when you got STD from her

Surely · Answer

If her past is going to bother you. Now is the time to get it out in the open.  You need assurances that her past is staying in the past.

BLP11520 · Answer

I found out about my wifes past and I have never gotten over it

Jamie05rhs · Answer

@Subarugirl Here's your chance. Make your best case. Convince us.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

You cannot turn a hoe into a housewife, man rule #1.

maximumpower · Answer

Tried that once.  Slut - like a leopard - cannot change it's spots.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope. You can take a whore out of the whorehouse. But you can't take whorehouse out of whore. People don't really change.

Anonymous · Answer

If you can't get past it, than that's on you buddy.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

I basically don't care about women's pasts.

TroyDT · Answer

If you can't get beyond it, move on.

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