I can't get over that my current girlfriend lost her virginity to her EX?

[Jae99]

Hello guys, the reason im even here on this website is because i really want to get over this. Its been bugging me for weeks, I really love my girlfriend but this problem is killing me.

I get it, losing our virginity these days are normal, when she lost her virginity she didn't even know me. but my brain, my emotions just keep hitting me. just a little thoughts of someone touching her with lust, i felt like her body is tainted.

I felt fucking pain, its like having needle piercing my heart 1 by 1. I want this to stop, its all in the past i love the current her but still, my brain... it fucking hurts. Any idea how to get over it?

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I am virgin

[MriPibbXtra]

Were you a virgin when you both had sex or did you already have experience prior to that? If you weren’t a virgin and you’re mad that she was then you have no right whatsoever to be mad. But if you were a virgin and you were expecting to have sex with a virgin also then I can understand why. I was a virgin when I had sex with my girlfriend but she had sex with 4 other guys and yeah it bothered me because it wasn’t special like I’d planned it to be.

[Jae99]

Yea i am virgin, I wanted her to be mine and mine alone.. but apparently not, and never will be

[MriPibbXtra]

I know the feeling and it sucks but just learn to accept her.

[Dreamweaver671]

She still is a virgin to you. I fought with this demilima with my first true love. How she gave herself so easily yet I worked so hard to just turn her eye. Then I realized that it's not her past that she rememberes but her future. Make her future more interesting than her past. Then you will have truly taken her virginity.

[BonnieBunny]

Get over it

[ENTP_EMO]

The common virgin mentality I guess.
Get rid of that virginity and you'd be like,
"that ho better be experienced, I don't have time to teach because my booty call list is too long. I'm also fuckboy now. Oh Woe is me"

[TheBigSoftie]

Dude, move on. She is not in love with him anymore. People lose their virginity, even girls.
She is in love with you, and that is all that counts now.

[SC4321]

Yeah that's tough. I guess just look at it like if she really cares about you what she did with the other guy won't matter to her any more and only what she does with you will matter to her.

[bunny29]

Do you love her or her virginity think about her love not what she lose

[blackborg]

Sex is not like flying to Jupiter on a ship with the speed of light without a roof. It's nothing special or secret or pure. Don't think about it too much. Just get laid. Sooner or later you will understand

[Zero-Zulu]

Time is all you can do. Don’t overthink it because the mind is powerful thing to mess with you

[jacquesvol]

Get over it. Virginity is over valued.

[Lumberman53TheMeowch]

Are you a virgin?

[Jae99]

yes i am

[Lumberman53TheMeowch]

That's why then you wanted it to be an experience where you were each other's first. Listen I know it's not the same but if she cares about you and finds the idea of being your first special then it should still be enjoyable and special when you guys do have sex. I mean do what you want it's your relationship but I hope you consider what I said.