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A guy I was casual with started acting differently for the last couple of days I was with him - he put less emphasis on sex, and wanted to take long walks, talk, wach a movie together, cuddle... We also talked about our values, ideal partner and vision of the future, and we're really compatible. I would take this as him liking me.

BUT, this was the first time I experienced "slow love /like". So despite showing clear signs of liking him, I was so focused on not being in love that I thought I had no romantic interest in him, and told him that. When I came back home, he ghosted.

I asked if everything was okay, still no reply, but he kept tabs on me by viewing my every story and status. I decided to remove him from my socials and delete his number. But it felt wrong doing it without saying goodbye, so just before deleting his no., I messaged to say goodbe, also called him out on ghosting and immaturity (worded in non-accusatory manner), and mentioned I liked him. Suddenly he replied with a smiley, said he was ohw home, and that he would get back to me later. But... he ghosted again.

Today I was talking with a guy friend who was sure he liked me, and we realized this might have pushed him away: (note he's 25, and I'm in my early 30s)

while we were talking about our visions of the future and the right partner, I mentioned I don't want to wait anymore. I meant I want to find the right person soon, and not settle down (I have things to take care of before that, which will take some years). But it might have come off as the latter given the context

Now this is bugging me, and I really want to say something (maybe a couple of weeks from now). But I don't know if he would still ask about it or ghost (see below)

What would you do in his place?

1. Would you still ask me about it after I told you I liked you, despite thinking I was ready to settle down? So to clear the confusion

2. Would you rather ghost to spare your own feelings because you were sure I was ready to settle down?

For some context, I do this more so when I am severely depressed, weather is tolerable enough and I can't seem to sleep or relax.

I have plenty of friends but none that I feel close enough to confide in. Therapy feels like running in cycles sometimes. Despite medicine being a passion of mine, it doesn't change the fact that it's incredibly difficult to manage at school. My part time work is not too bad but it doesn't 'give me life'. The more independent i've become, the lonelier it's gotten but I craved for this peace so i'm conflicted.

I want to get a dog so bad but I fear being too depressed to care for it if I ever had a really bad low. But this is the closest thing to something that could 'give me life'- a reason to keep going everyday you know? I am a nurturer at heart and would thrive off wanting the best for it. I would love to have a mini non-verbal companion

There's days where I get overwhelmned in the night and I grab my longboard and go cruising. I know this is kinda dumb, but if it's earlier like 11pm or 4am, i'll put in an earbud and just go wherever the evening/morning takes me. It's usually pretty quiet out and I love how pretty the moon looks.

It's risky because I am f22 and live in a city with a pretty high crime rate. Personally, I haven't fallen victim to anything crazy yet but I feel that the more I keep doing this, the more my odds are of running into a deadly situation.

I am red belt in taekwondo so I feel self assured but in a street fight, weapons could likely be drawn. No amount of training could ever make me block a blade or dodge bullets. Real life is sadly much scarier than the movies make it out to be

Is anyone else in a similar situation? I am open to opinions from all