Context: In 2016 i found out my ex husband cheated on me right when I was grieving my Mother’s loss. I broke up with him and then met a guy on a dating site which turned out to be a catfish. I found out he was catfish bc I found the real guy on social media. I reached out to him and we met up and had a one night stand that turned out to be a sexual relationship for about 4 years. fast forward to now I’m a single mom that got remarried a year ago.
after my breakup I kept my relationship with the real guy (from the catfish story). He would reach out to me once in a blue to go to his house& have sex. I stopped contact in 2020. The recent event is that he reached out to me a month before my wedding date and I honestly did not think he would reach out I had cut all ties with him (I had blocked him but he reached out to me from a new account). I explained to him I had fun with him and what we had was amazing but that I was happy and I would soon be married. He understood but he said if I ever wanted to see him he would be dtf.
I had dreams of him recently which caused me to unblock him and reach out to him. I told him about the dreams & we sexted. I feel like I have fallen for him ever since the first day I had sex with him. I always thought we could never be something serious since we were always having sex and not building a connection.
i don’t want to cheat on my husband even if things aren’t going well with him right now. I do want to take time and think about the situation. I am planning on either meeting this guy for lunch or calling him and explaining that I do not want to cheat on my husband and confess my feelings. I would’ve loved for us to workout but I always kept it to myself since he lives a life of a bachelor and that’s the thing that makes me think we would never be.
I’m thinking Why does he keep coming back? Why does he keep wanting to have sex with me even if I am committed? I need advice on why he keeps doing that and if I should tell him what I feel?
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I think your idea of just sitting down and talking about it is the best approach in this case. Ask yourself what exactly you want from him?
If he's just using you for sex then do you want to continue getting in this situation?
Or do you want something more with him?
You need to be on the same page. But I think it's good that you talk about it instead of just not talking and keep having this issue.
Maybe he wants the same as you, maybe not. You'll never know until you ask.
Thank you and i sent him a message this Tuesday telling him I won’t be seeing him and told him that I really liked him but that it was not meant to be. He said “yea and no bc the way we met was crazy” and so then he tried flirting a little and I ended it by saying “I was willing to risk it but it’s not worth it” and I guess he got pissed off or was like okay whatever and didn’t reply 😂
because you let him