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We got back together after a year apart. We slept together the first night then the second night I tried for sex and he said no.

He’d been seeing someone he wasn’t in a relationship with and told her it never would be before we got back together. I don’t know how soon before he slept with her anywhere from a day before to two weeks before.

When we got back together he instantly said he loved me and wanted me and him back together for good.
But then he rejected me the following day. We did speak before we slept together saying that we aren’t bothered about sex id rather sleep etc. then the following day when I tried he said im not in the mood we said this the other day that’s how we are.

But a couple of weeks/month into us and he said he wants it twice a day. He’s always been like this and has a really high sex drive. He was more or less like that with me before we broke up and got back together. We did have sex often and multiple times a night.

So why did he turn me down that night? Was it to do with the other girl? It wasn’t as good? Or do guys not work like that?
But then why would he after a few weeks/month want it twice a day and complain to his friends I don’t give him sex enough. It changed and I’ve started rejecting him

Was he trying to control me turning me down the second night since before we had sex loads? Making sure I knew my place?

Or was it about the other girl? I don’t know how often they seen each other. I just know the set up was only seeing each other. He made it clear there was no relationship but she was saying she was in love and he was saying it wasn’t like that on his side. Maybe he went every night to hers? I have no idea but I know they could have seen each other as little as the day before me and him to 2 weeks before

So I am in an exklusive dating with a guy who is 30 and I am 22. We ve been dating since October 2024.

I feel like there are some issues between us and also there are some problems on my part that I feel like may cause this relationship to end.

A month ago, I asked how he feels about me and if we could be girlfriend and boyfriend, but he said he is not read.

He says he likes me, and we do go on some dates every time we meet. But I feel like he is mostly interested in sex. Why do things that are done in a relationship but not want to have a relationship? Is it commitment issues or he just doesn't love me?

by the way we live in different cities so we visit each other. Like taking turns.

I want to love and to be loved deeply, but I feel like he does not love me and my feeling for him are decreasing, maybe because I am dissapointed. And for me, feelings is what makes me continue a relationship, which mean it's more important for me than sex.

I feel so insecure because of a lot of things

- that he does not show enough care. For example when he talks about his problems, I pay attention, care for him and solve them together. But when I talk about my problems, he just say it's gonna be alright and good night. No more comfort/care or whatever.

- he forgot my birthday

- I feel like he just is dating me as a second option just because other girls have not chosen him

- that my university grades are not so great right now and my family use me now and then.

- a lot of things has happened lately that makes me question myself, my relationship and my family. I see negativity more that positivity. I don't know if I am starting to become depressed.

I am a bit naive I guess.

I am thinking if I should break up with him because I don't feel loved the way I want or if I just should wait and see how it goes first and then decide.

I am also tired of dating and relationship that waste my time and feelings. I am tired of being used just for being kind. People treat me as an idiot and naive.