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So my boyfriend and I have been together for the last 3 years and been the best girlfriend possible for him. I sacrifice what I can/need to in order for him to be happy like spending money on gifts or whatever he needs with other things. Even though this might sound unhealthy, I went past my comfort zones/boundaries to please him. For example, he started to withhold sex because I wouldn’t get on birth control for him. I got on a method, not one he preferred, and it was fine for some time until he wanted more (the method he stated at the beginning). I told him I wasn’t comfortable with that but had to get it in order to receive anything intimate again.

also when you read this, please don’t judge.

recently though, he took it upon himself to purchase me a laptop that I need for graduate school which I appreciated a lot. However, he planned on buying it from a sketchy site and I begged him to buy it elsewhere. He said he wanted to do what he want, and got the laptop. I drove a long way to get it from him, and when I got home the laptop isn’t connecting to the internet which is a huge problem. Then the responsibility fell onto me to solve it when he could’ve made sure the laptop was fine while it was in his possession for a week or so. I had to drive more to a repair store and wait hours for them to tell me it cannot be fixed. I told him after and he claimed that the repair “isn’t that much,” and how I should’ve requested a cheaper laptop instead for school. I asked for the return label so I can mail it off to get a refund for him since he wasn’t going to do that and he said he was “too tired” to do so but wouldn’t give me his account information so I can do it myself. I’m not sure how to deal with this behavior or what to think of it considering how well I’ve treated him and he didn’t have to worry about a thing. Like I bought him a phone last year and it’s been working fine since. What should I do? Please explain.

I met this guy online a few years ago from a dating website. He is from England and I’m from USA, and we dated online at first for a little while. As time went on, he stated his mental health problems and how he couldn’t be in a long distance relationship anymore. I didn’t hold him back so he left, but we had been texting on and off throughout the years. He wishes me a happy birthday and holiday, stuff like that.

within the last few months, we reconnected a lot more like more phone calls to texting. He even admitted to realizing that I might be the girl for him since throughout all these years, no woman near him had made him feel the same as I made him feel. He even had a plan where if we meet up within the next 2 years then we can get married considering how much we both went through. I was flattered but concerned since I didn’t want to get hurt again if he wasn’t ready mentally, so I asked if he was sure. He said he wasn’t and then stopped talking to me for a couple of months for a mental break only to reappear as if nothing happened.

I asked him if he still wanted to do that 2 year plan and he said sure, we text somewhat often still now. But, he told me recently that he joined a dating app just because of boredom and was laughing at how women messaged him for sex. I was confused since based off what he confessed, i should be the only one he needs to be focused on. I’m just nervous now that he’s going to try to date other women before we actually meet up and then have his feelings confused on who he likes more, or just trying to have random encounters in the meantime. I mean I can’t control him but we do have a plan to meet up by the end of this year or next year so I don’t understand why would he do this. Please share your thoughts below, thanks.