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My boyfriend and I have been long-distance dating for closer to 4 years, and it's been a rollercoaster for many reasons. But, recently, we both finally had an opportunity to spend a night together at a hotel and enjoy ourselves. As soon as we walked in since I had not seen him for some time, he wanted sex. I wanted to do it as well because, mentally, I thought it would be fun for us both. However, while we were doing it, he kept telling me not to take my shirt off and other stuff that seemed distant. He finished and was quiet, giving a stand-offish vibe afterwards. I kept asking him what the issue was, and he insisted it was nothing. Finally, once I got ready for the event he wanted to go to, he stated that he was worried about my health since I had gotten "bigger."

My weight has fluctuated a lot throughout the years in early adulthood, especially with working and college. When we met, I was on the smaller side, but it was an unhealthy time for me, hardly eating. I got on the hormonal IUD for him, and that caused me to gain a lot of weight.

I started crying and asked if he was ashamed of me, if he was still wanting me in that way, the works basically because of my body. He apologized a while later about it, and admitted saying that I deserve better which was also weird. I'm not sure how to really feel or go about this since he is health-crazy and wants to make sure I live a long life with him. However, his behavior did not match up to what he was saying. I mentioned it to a few friends to which they said that he might have seen better and now has a desire for that, or he's using health as a scapegoat to cover up his lack of wanting me now. What do you think? I'm afraid he doesn't find me attractive anymore but the weight is mainly because of him wanting this birth control in me. Do you think he is just using me for sex/companionship? Does he actually love me?

My boyfriend told me that because he grew up with his father, he is a difficult person to live with and he tries to be nothing like him (jealous, thinks he is always right, selfish, moody). He likes to control everybody's life, asking many questions about the simplest things, always trying to find the bad and negative things everywhere. My boyfriend is a very down to earth person he doesn't let anything get to him or destroy his mood and thats a characteristic that makes his father even angrier when he tries to argue with him about stuff that he doesn't agree with. Today I got upset because my boyfriend and his father were alone and they started talking about me, he was asking my boyfriend if he is truly happy with me, that he doesn't like how I speak with my boyfriend and I'm too rude and always look angry and mad with my boyfriend. My boyfriend defended me and said that I'm only rude or shout when he annoys me and that he likes annoying me and he is really happy with me and we are doing great, but his father continued saying that that's not what he sees and that I have to control myself and not be rude. I'll admit I'm not a saint I do get annoyed easily and I can speak in a higher tone with my boyfriend sometimes when he does annoying stuff and only when I speak louder does he listen, but that's something that my boyfriend knows about me and he doesn't get offended about it. Am I an asshole for feeling angry with his father, I don't like people getting involved In our relationship when we are doing so great and we didn't ask for any advice. I feel like his questions were not out of interest for my boyfriends future or out of love, I feel like he wanted to make my boyfriend feel that I'm not good enough, I don't know how to explain it.