How much harder will it be for me to find true love due to my small boob flaw/defect?

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I'm obviously on the smaller side and my breast aren't big enough to have things like cleavage or to wear certain tops or bathing suits without it looking strange. I feel like this hinders me when it comes to dating or being seen as desirable to men. I have dated before and had boyfriends but I also felt like they were just dealing with my defect. So while they didn't find my small boobs dealbreakers, they focused on other things to make up for my lack of a bosom. While I do have some advantages like not having to wear a bra and no back pain, I feel like a lot of men will find me unfeminine or not woman enough because of my flaw and I don't really know what to do. I do not want to be alone forever because of this.

Sadly, I'm 20 and in college so I unfortunately don't have the money to get an augmentation. Birth control has unfortunately not increased my cup size and I also don't want to gain weight because i'm already 110 pounds and there's no guarantee the extra weight will go to my breast. I work out often and that has not made my breast bigger whatsoever. Am I out of luck?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I DON’T think it will be hard for you to find true love due to you having small boobs…

FIRST:

MY PREFERENCES/THOUGHTS ABOUT BREASTS:

I PREFER SMALLER BREASTS over larger breasts because (to me) smaller breasts are generally: shaped nicer, firmer, and perkier with more sensitive nipples than larger breasts. (Also—bonus for women: smaller breasts give women less back pain.)

Of course, “smaller” or “larger” breast size is somewhat subjective, and does NOT depend on bra cup size alone; it also depends on bra band (underbust) size too—for example: a woman with D-cup breasts & a 28 US/UK bra band size (meaning that her bra size is 28D) does NOT have big breasts, because 28D has the same cup volume as (and is a “sister size” to) bra sizes 30C & 32B.

To me, “smaller” means 34C & below, and “larger” means 34D & above (one needs to “draw the line” somewhere).

MORE IMPORTANTLY:

Everyone is different and has different interests & (physical & other) preferences.  And usually people are attracted to others NOT ONLY for a single personal characteristic; and moreover, most people DON’T “rule out” someone else being a potential partner to them just because one or some of their preferences isn’t a characteristic in the other person.

  *** WITH THE ABOVE SAID, PLEASE NOTE THE FOLLOWING THINGS:

Find a guy who likes what you’ve got, and “be confident in who you are and what you have to offer” (that’s true “sexiness” to me…in other words: “Rock Whatcha Got”).

FYI:
Guys on GAG prefer smaller breasts over larger breasts — see the polls to these questions… 

Do you like smaller boobs?  

Are bigger breasts sexier than smaller ones?
  

Big tits or little tits?
  

Guys, Guys: big ones, little ones, in-between ones, or does it even matter?

What breast size do you like most?  

Which breast size do you like the most? And why?  

What is your preferred/favourite breast size?
 

Guys, which one is better? Fake and big or natural and small?  

Do you mind if your girlfriend has a flat chest?  

Would you date a flat chested girl?

MCheetah · Accepted Answer

You can always get breast implants for free. Either a GoFundMe which simps will happily fund for you, or that site that used to exist MyFreeImplants. com, although I'm not sure if they still work.

Regarding weight gain, what you eat determines where fat settles. And although it sounds fake, yes, eating lots of dairy products, will cause the fat to settle in your boobs (sugar goes to your ass and carbs go to your stomach; meat actually doesn't cause that much weight gain, hence the Keto diet). So if you wan to gain weight that way, just drink lots of cow whole milk and dairy products like yogurt.

Having some 34DD's will fix all your insecurities regarding that. Me on the other hand, feel the same way about my sh*t-tier, feminine height. And unlike implants, there are almost no solutions to fix shortness or correct being 180 cm like a little girl.

letuswaltzforthedead · Accepted Answer

You can alway get a transplant, that's what I'm thinking of doing when I'm older. though yours are cups bigger than mines. However, I dont think boobs and "true love " are related. Boobs just make you more attractive, it doesn't determine whether someone falls in love with you or not.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Accepted Answer

I have smaller breast and I don’t think that’s something that will stop men from loving me.

That’s even cute and there are lots of men who prefer smaller boobs over the bigger ones.

So don’t worry, your size has nothing to do with the love you’ll find.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Your insecurity about your boobs is based on a stereotype perpetuated by women, not men. Your half of the species thinks that EVERY man wants a woman with big boobs and that simply is not true. In fact, only about 25% of all men prefer women with big boobs. There are equal numbers who prefer medium, who prefer smaller boobs, and who have no preference. So about 50 of all men either think your boobs are perfect or they don't care about boob size.
Guys, Guys: big ones, little ones, in-between ones, or does it even matter? ↗
Guys: small, medium, large, or don't care? ↗

ohsheeT · Answer

Okay first of all I understand that you see your breasts every day and it might bug you let's just pretend that none of us had breast would you be confident in yourself are you happy with it are you a good person can you smile do you have a beautiful heart because see no matter if you have breast or not that's what people want to know all the above if you have all the above going for you you have everything going for you because a man they can see that you have all the above he doesn't care about your breasts he cares about you and the person inside of you that's all he cares about if a man is going to be with you only because the size of your breasts you don't want to be with him anyway because it will never last anyway that is just ridiculous the man that falls in love with you will be because of who you are on the inside the outside is all just an extra bonus

Summeroflove · Answer

Women who are too obsessed with sexual features. I loose interest fast. I want someone whose moral. Yeah I admire beauty. But. When it’s nothing but sexual forget it.

You do you. Do what you want. Just maybe focus less on sex and building something real. Otherwise you’re gonna get men who are also just obsessed with body

Bethany22 · Answer

That alone shouldn't cause a problem

Guy13 · Answer

You are beautiful just the way you are.

VikingWarLord · Answer

I've cheated on every ex with small tiits. I'm a diick I know, but why settle when I KNOW I can snag hotter with a bigger rack? I've never seen a chic with small tiits who i'd consider over 7 out of 10 in looks (not even celebs).

With all that said, I'd only date one if she was willing to share me with other hot chics I find and/or a BDSM Submissive / Dom relationship. Lucky for me, even when I say this straight up to chics with smaller racks, they STILL wanna get with me and will share me with the other hot broads that I find. Some are even gluttons for punishment and love the degradation, seems to be a common trait for the itty bitty titty committee, moreso than naught.

If she got a boob job, it might make me consider something more serious, but even though, I've noticed chics with naturally small boobs, typically have average faces too, nothing outstanding that would make up for the small tiits. I'm assuming those pics aren't you, you'd have to show me your face and body type to know for sure. Send me a DM and I'll be BRUTALLY FUUCKIN HONEST if it's gonna affect your chances.

Sixgunsound · Answer

You’re woman enough if you have two X chromosomes and female anatomy. I happen to like smaller breasts better, as do most of the men who respond to this question as it is asked rather frequently. That says to me this is an insecurity that many women share, but don’t need to based on the numbers from real men on this site. I think the female insecurity industrial complex, composed of magazines TV shows movies and the advertising industry conspire against actual women and actual men to make both of us believe that having more up front is better. I am convinced that most men will work with what you’ve got as long as they can play with what you’ve got. The ones who don’t can be safely ignored. I would happily date and even marry a woman who was a small a cup as long as she wanted kids, was an awesome person with good skills and work ethic and scored high in the agreeable personality trait. SMALL BREASTS ARE NOT A DEFECT!

RavVid · Answer

Let go of this small boobs mindset!

I and a lot other guys like modest breast. From the pics you seem to have a handful to cup and a more than a handful is a waste. In fact you can't cup large breasts because they go everywhere. As a guy I miss out on the sexy feeling of having the whole of your breasts in my hands if they are big and all you get to do is lift them up.

Nipples are far more key to me (and a lot of other guys). You also have a good tight waist and that enhances what you do have.

Burn your bras and wear tops that drape over your breasts and are thin enough to at least hint at your nipples and show your waist off. I'd be thinking Phoar if I saw you in the street baby. You have a beautiful face and great hair so you are hot.

I can't promise you true love but I am sure a lot of guys will want to be with you.

dustybiker · Answer

Just look at all the famous hollywood actresses who have a lighter chest. If they weren’t attractive they wouldn’t have jobs as tickets wouldn’t sell.

Be happy you don’t have extra weight to carry around. It leads to back and neck issues. You don’t have a problem, you lucked out.

annabananna · Answer

You won’t have trouble getting a quality man even though it may feel like it now. It’s usually the quality men that don’t care much about size even though they may have a preference. They will care about the important things like your character and health. Their are some young guys that are immature and watch too much porn that are shallow and want their woman to look like that stereotype. If those guys make comments don’t let it get to you.

AngelOfLight258 · Answer

Girl, we all have our imperfections (flat chest, hip dips, square-shaped torso, etc...) but Imperfections aren't "defects".

Even if you're not perfect, you're still beautiful and if guys hold girls to a perfect standard they'll be pretty lonely (i. e. it's their problem).

stratford · Answer

You don't have a defect, and many guys will love breasts that are your size. C cup is pretty average and I would certainly enjoy looking at and playing with them.

Lots of guys love normal and smaller breasts - you should be proud and even try going out in public without a bra, you'll get plenty of attention from the guys.

Massageman · Answer

If it is TRUE love for which you are looking, your breast volume shouldn't make a difference. That person would be looking a few inches more deeply- into your heart- to find the "real you".

As OlderAndWiser points out, different guys have different preferences on mini vs mammoth mammaries, and there are certainly enough guys who will find you a good "fit" for them.

Go forth, be confident, be yourself, and the rest will follow.

Sparkie460 · Answer

Stop worrying about the size of your boobs. There are plenty of guys , like me, that like smaller breasts. I think you look very desirable. Not everyone likes huge mellows. I think large breasts are less desirable. Be happy with what you have. There are women who are even smaller than you. You have very beautiful breasts.

zagor · Answer

DON'T get augmentation. LOTS of men like smaller breasts. As OAW says below (or maybe above) women get boob jobs to impress other women. Men (mostly) don't care.

If you can't find true love it WON'T be because of your boobs. Your insecurity on the matter, on the other hand...

altaboy · Answer

Guys like small boobs. It is absolutely true! Of course, not everyone likes the same thing. You are beautiful! Physical beauty isn't everything, and that will become more obvious to you with experience. You happen to be blessed with it, so be confident. You don't need to change anything. You don't want to be with someone who would reject you for something so superficial anyway.

Twalli · Answer

If we were dating I would focus on your small boobs, the'd be a plus for me. I love girls with small boobs. Anything more than a handful is a waste. You can find plenty of men who prefer small boobs, and typically they are of a higher social class than those that prefer smaller boobs.

USLegionary · Answer

If your thin and pretty no problem. Look at all the celebrities guys like, most are short skinny pretty with small boobs.

HighValue · Answer

I prefer smaller breasts and I'm sure some other guys do too. Just find a guy that prefers smaller ones over large ones. Don't get enlargements because sometimes those lead to breast cancer years later.

Shiface92 · Answer

Shakira once said “lucky that my breast are small and humble so that you don’t confuse them with mountains “

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