Without offending him or making him feel like im controlling him. For instance, i need him to take better control of his alcohol intake, to get off of bad habits for good (he dips), to practice better hygiene and be more clean.
One time i suggested something clean-related, i dont believe i was being naggy or rude, but the first thing he said is that “you’re not gonna change me”, while laughing, whilst continuing doing what i didn't want him to do.
He said he likes that im not a nagging girlfriend and i dont want to be, but i also can't keep putting up with some of his behaviors that i know i dont need to deal with in the first place.
Thing is he does a lot to make me happy, but when it comes to changing some things about him, i dont think i would happen. Even if it is for himself and lets me honest, for me too.
His family accepts him as he is, and he probably wants the same from me or from any partner.
One time i suggested something clean-related, i dont believe i was being naggy or rude, but the first thing he said is that “you’re not gonna change me”, while laughing, whilst continuing doing what i didn't want him to do.
He said he likes that im not a nagging girlfriend and i dont want to be, but i also can't keep putting up with some of his behaviors that i know i dont need to deal with in the first place.
Thing is he does a lot to make me happy, but when it comes to changing some things about him, i dont think i would happen. Even if it is for himself and lets me honest, for me too.
His family accepts him as he is, and he probably wants the same from me or from any partner.
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Took me a while but we’ve started talking about it (just some, not all at once), and so far he’s meeting me halfway. He was gentle and understanding. He gets where im coming from and is glad that we talked about it, because he said hed do his best to make me happy. It really is my fault that i find it so hard to say something.. and it was still hard when i did it and when i have to do it again, but im just going to have to be uncomfortable and accept it.
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