Started talking to a guy a little over a year ago. We were friends for a pretty long time before this and would randomly communicate but hadn’t seen each other for quite some time until right before this. I just got out of an extremely long relationship with a man who put me through the ringer. Anyways, one drunken night he told me he had feelings for me. Not to long after that we started hanging out and talking every day. He very quickly told me he loved me and would marry me one day. He also wanted kids with me. I started therapy and told him I needed time to deal with all the issues I had from my previous relationship and I needed things to slow down a little in order to not bring the bs from my past relationship in to this one. He was upset but understanding. I did pull away from him to deal with things (we hung out less) and I’m finally to the point where I feel more confident and like I’m okay with things getting more serious but past few weeks he’s been super distant and then all of a sudden told me he was kind of just over it. He said he’d miss me and doesn’t wanna lose me but wants to find someone to do all the things he wanted with me. I told him I was ready and wanted those things, gave him a few days to think, and he said he didn’t change his mind. He made it seem like maybe we could just be friends or keep screwing around but I told him I couldn’t stay in his life because it would be too hard for me. I kinda just want to know why he would all of a sudden switch up after seeming like he was fine with everything? There was zero communication in between him saying what he wanted then changing his mind. I will add that he’s not very good with communication. I have no answers still want him and don’t know what to do. We get along great, never fought, wanted the same things, and our personalities vibes well along with our sense of humor. I want him back so what should I do?
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6 mo
No. He literally told me after he said he was over it that he didn’t wanna lose me and would miss me. I was suppose to stay at his house that night we had this conversation and I told him I’d still come and he said no I think if we had fun it would just confuse me. I think I’m gonna go drink tonight. Like dude what do you have to drink about lol. I think the conflicting crap is why I’m so confused and having a hard time with everything.
