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I work in a small office and we all get on really well. The guy in question is one of those “nice guys” who has a joke with everyone and is kind/lovely to everyone so it would be difficult to know whether he was into me.

Also, I’m too shy to ask him at present so I just want to know what you all think.

I’m a 30 year old woman and he is 27. We have a lot of banter, and although he jokes around with all women in the team, he does things with me that he doesn’t with them. For example, he will do silly things to get my attention such as grabbing my hair clip, poking me, touching my keyboard while I’m using it. He also makes silly jokes around me, such as “oh you’re still alive then” after I went home sick. He also “picks” on me in a jokey way and says he does it because I give him a reaction.

He looks at me a lot and we do have a lot of eye contact. I’ve been out drinking when he has, and apparently he’s very “huggy” with me but wouldn’t hug/touch me at work.

When it was my birthday, he arranged the cards and gifts for me at work. When I got a lift into work with another male, he seemed kind of jealous. I asked him to help me with something and he said “why don’t you go and ask (guy who gave me a lift to work)”.

He acts stiff, sometimes cold towards me as if I was his tyrant boss. When I am alone with him on a confined space (elevator for instance) he pushes himself in a corner and keeps looking at the ground while mumbling.

Other times he just acts really cold, indifferent or slightly annoyed or pretends he doesn’t notice me. Did I do something to him? Or does he think I think he likes me and therefore tries to make a wide berth around me?

He is confident and sociable with everyone else so it has to do with me. He is also not shy to flirt with other female coworkers despite being married with kids so he is most likely not afraid of metoo