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We’ve been together for eight years and there is still a lot of chemistry and things to talk about. With that being, his parents are snobs so he has basically told me he is willing to do a private marriage but a normal marriage isn’t possible. I could never be a part of his family. He also hates my family because he feels like they take advantage of me etc so other issues too. Ultimately, we realized we have to part ways but for some reason he still gets jealous if I talk to anyone else and even when we try to stop messaging or seeing each other we only last a few days, most a week, before we somehow get sucked back in. No matter how hard I try to cut out, I get sucked back in when he messages and vice versa. He claims he doesn’t love me etc and just wants to “use” me but then anytime I am hurting or family stuff comes up he gets involved immediatly and he gets upset if I prioritize family over time with him. Is this considered a form of addiction and anyone else experience it before?

Im watching this show (himym) and one of the characters was surprised that his wife didn't get jealous about a female coworker he was spending time with (not cheating). Then his two friends explained that its because he’s the “reacher” in the relationship and his wife is the “settler”.

This means his wife is the best woman he can get (he “reached” for her) thats why she isn't worried about him cheating. While his wife is the “settler” obviously means she settled for him. His friends told him this, not his wife.

Do you agree that every relationship has a “reacher” and a “settler”? If so which one do you think are you in your relationship?